Things you'd like to say, but can't

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Archie_tect

De Skieven Architek... aka Penfold + Horace
Location
Northumberland
Did you get it?
 

Arch

Married to Night Train
Location
Salford, UK
Yes, I know the lad has a learning/mental disability, and that's why he's supposed to be here every Friday to do a little job, to help him learn the routine and discipline of work now that he's old enough to leave school. So it's not surprising that he can't remember the routine from week to week.

However, you're the carer, you're supposed to be keeping him working and doing it right. I typed out a nice clear set of instructions on how to sort the recycling, and what things we reject as rubbish. We even dug out some magnets so that you could separate steel from ali (which we do by experience).

So why don't you bother to read the instructions and use the magnets?

It took me 20 minutes to day to resort the boxes of stuff, chuck out the rubbish, and generally get it right.

The worse thing is that when we got back and you were already working, you'd been chucking stuff straight into the skips instead of leaving the boxes for us to count, so god knows what contamination you've already caused.

It's bloody annoying. We do a good job and take pride in it, but you clearly think it's beneath you and doesn't matter. Not to mention, you're hardly helping the lad learn anything about doing a job properly!
 

Spinney

Bimbleur extraordinaire
Location
Back up north
Yes, I know the lad has a learning/mental disability, and that's why he's supposed to be here every Friday to do a little job, to help him learn the routine and discipline of work now that he's old enough to leave school. So it's not surprising that he can't remember the routine from week to week.

However, you're the carer, you're supposed to be keeping him working and doing it right. I typed out a nice clear set of instructions on how to sort the recycling, and what things we reject as rubbish. We even dug out some magnets so that you could separate steel from ali (which we do by experience).

So why don't you bother to read the instructions and use the magnets?

It took me 20 minutes to day to resort the boxes of stuff, chuck out the rubbish, and generally get it right.

The worse thing is that when we got back and you were already working, you'd been chucking stuff straight into the skips instead of leaving the boxes for us to count, so god knows what contamination you've already caused.

It's bloody annoying. We do a good job and take pride in it, but you clearly think it's beneath you and doesn't matter. Not to mention, you're hardly helping the lad learn anything about doing a job properly!

That is worth saying to the 'carer's' supervisor, if you can...
 

Arch

Married to Night Train
Location
Salford, UK
That is worth saying to the 'carer's' supervisor, if you can...


We're going to try - it's complicated by the fact that we provide the activity through an agency, and don't have a contact for the actual carers. The agency are quite often a bit useless, so we're not sure the message would get through.

There is one carer who is excellent. He makes sure the job is done, he pushes the lad to get on with it and checks it's done right. But he can't come every week. We're going to have a word with him when we can, he may be a more senior chap.

Some one was supposed to come today to 'observe'. He turned up 3 hours late, and said he couldn't find us. We said "Didn't you have directions?" He said "well, directions are directions, they only get you so far". Yeah, normally, to where you're going. For god's sake, we're a mile from the centre of York, not in the middle of the moors!
 

Mad Doug Biker

Just a damaged guy.
Location
Craggy Island

I must have missed that, I'll look it up properly, thanks!
 

simon.r

Person
Location
Nottingham
I'm sorry, I know it's 'health and safety gone mad' but I have to to abide by the company policy even when I know it's a load of bo**ocks.
 

Cyclopathic

Veteran
Location
Leicester.
I just wish there was a polite way of telling people (usually strangers) that I don't really want to make small talk with them and would they mind just leaving me alone because life is too short to spend it resenting the time I spent talking to you when I could have been entertaining myself with my own thoughts. No matter how I phrase it, it still sounds stand offish or rude even. Any tips would be very gratefully received.
 
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