RIP Threads

[Rusty Nails]

What about the ones in open caskets, surrounded by grieving family?

They are more laid to rest than being kept busy.

 

[Cycleops]

"RIP" is an idiotic term. They're not resting, they're dead. See also 'passed away' or (even worse) 'passed'.

Popularised by the famous sketch involving s unscrupulous pet shop owner and s Norwegian Blue.

 

[craigwend]

It’s been wandering a bit off topic.

Ok I get some people may want to acknowledge the death of someone who made an impact on their cycling experience but why the myriad of other individuals that frequently crop up in the New Posts feed?

We could just have a Collective RIP thread each month - this has been done on another forum I go on to not have multiples, but for those who want it...

 

[Cycleops]

My sister is the sort of person who would use "sadly passed away" to anyone outside the close family group. She tries so hard not to "offend" people that actually she sounds weirder than if she's just being herself.

I think that's key, you don't want to offend.

 

[Badger_Boom]

Sorry, but just... no. Deal with the reality. You can still have respect.

Some people struggle with that. It's not my business to make the choice of terminology for them.

 

[Cycleops]

Some might find this offensive but it's all s bit of s show down here,:

View: https://youtu.be/j9V78UbdzWI

 

[cougie uk]

Nobody's forcing you to read them. Clearly they're of interest to people or they wouldn't exist. Just move on.

 

[markemark]

Death is a significant life event heavily tied in with differing cultural, class and religious sentiments. Therefore it is not surprising there will be lots of different names/phrases used. No one is in a position to dictate how it should be described as an individual’s cultural and religious beliefs will vary widely.

 

[HobbesOnTour]

Oh, I agree, I meant too much euphemism not that we should use none.

Fair enough, but then as @Rusty Nails points out who gets to decide when it's too much?

I'll happily call out a misleading euphemism in certain areas. But in relation to a death? No.

Not offensive, just a way of wimping out from reality.

There's that word again. Reality.
Since my question was ignored by another poster I'll ask you.
What is reality?

Happens here too; the lease is 5 years and you either have to buy another one or take the grave away. So much for "final resting place".

It's interesting. I know Irish graveyards are filled with wandering tourists every summer looking for relatives and I've learned over the years that a visit to a small town graveyard can give a really good history of a place. But in some places? Nada. Zip. Zilch.

 

[classic33]

Fair enough, but then as @Rusty Nails points out who gets to decide when it's too much?

I'll happily call out a misleading euphemism in certain areas. But in relation to a death? No.



There's that word again. Reality.
Since my question was ignored by another poster I'll ask you.
What is reality?


It's interesting. I know Irish graveyards are filled with wandering tourists every summer looking for relatives and I've learned over the years that a visit to a small town graveyard can give a really good history of a place. But in some places? Nada. Zip. Zilch.

There are some schools where a small number of pupils are recording every headstone in their area.
First one I became aware of was via Clare County Library. An example below,
https://www.clarelibrary.ie/eolas/c...cliff_old_graveyard_transcription_project.htm

It's quite possible to find what you seek, before you make the trip there. They can, as you say, give a very good history of the local area.
Who was living in a particular area, and when. Possibly listing family members you never knew about.

 

[stephec]

Sometimes I'm in the 'never heard of them camp' and end-up discovering somebody whose oeuvre I may enjoy...

Unless they're a jazz player obviously. 😂

 

[Fab Foodie]

Unless they're a jazz player obviously. 😂

How very dare you....

 

[steveindenmark]

When people see an RIP post. It is quite obvious what it is. There is no obligation to open them.

I like reading obituaries so I will vote to keep them.

 

[Ming the Merciless]

How very dare you....

Are you the only Jazz lover in the village?

 

[DaveReading]

Why do people feel the need to post RIP threads?

Generally well known, to some, ( but not all), individuals who are effectively strangers. Just seems odd to me. I’d love a forum filter to easily remove such threads from my feed!

Is it just me?

Would it help if such threads were titled "A tribute to xxx" instead, since that's usually the sentiment being expressed.

If so, could you not just do a bit of mental substitution ?