Think I am being dumped by text!

[buggi]

well, if you can't get hold of her on the phone put what you just wrote on here into a text. and let her think about it.

don't make the mistake of constantly trying to get in touch as it will have the opposite effect of what you want, and you will only succeed in pushing her away, especially if she's already in a mood herself. let her stew a bit if she needs it.

 

[Night Train]

awww, screw her then hun.

I recently said that great sex wasn't the only reason I wanted to be with her for. She jokingly said it was for her. At least I think she was joking!

you're not depressed are you and not realising? it's just you said that "that is one reason I joined the theatre, it gave me a non work past time that made me 'live' again". Maybe you are weary coz you feel like you have nothing to look forward to? and that could also be why you only sleep for 4 hours.

It's isn't depression, been there, done that a long time ago and I know the signs. No, the being alive bit is putting a reason to why I work hard. I really enjoy having a new past time given that I have given up playing with 4x4s and ex military trucks. My house used to be a reason but it is a job now, it will be flats to let instead of a home. As a job it will wait until I have time to deal with it much later on.

 

[Night Train]

Usually we text maybe two or three conversations an evening. Sometimes I phone her to make the conversation easier or shorter but more indepth if you know what I mean. Since Sunday I have sent the usual Hi, how you doing? and good night texts but just got nothing in return until this evening. At the very least we have always wished each other a good night if nothing else.

 

[buggi]

i would text her now and say something like

"i want to fix things and talk to you about how we can go forward. i will leave you to think about what you want for a couple of days and phone you on saturday at 12noon. please pick up because even if you don't want this anymore, i would like to at least think we can end on good terms rather than by text. x

then phone her mobile on saturday (not house phone) at 12 noon. if she doesn't pick up she will have a missed call from you, so don't bother to phone her back. if she doesn't call back then i think it's the end. sorry mate.

 

[Night Train]

I've just text to say something similar. I've said I want to sort things but I want to hear what she wants to say about it too.
She has my spare phone, an old work PAYG sim in my last handset, and it allows us free calls to each other. She knows to have it on if she wants to talk to me.

 

[tdr1nka]

*hands bucket of black 'decaff' Earl Grey to NT*

Sorry to hear all this NT, things don't sound good.

 

[newbiebiker]

well, just be dumped. not your loss eh? or is it?

 

[Night Train]

well, just be dumped. not your loss eh? or is it?

Well, I would be rather put out if I was dumped, I had invested a lot emotionally into this relationship in both trust and hope and I wouldn't be happy for feeling messed about with.
But if I was dumped then I would rather she just phoned and told me then the text I got listing all the things she doesn't like about me and then not wanting to talk about it. It means that I end up not sleeping tonight for not knowing where I stand. That doesn't help the lack of sleep any.

 

[HeartAttack]

I'm not sure if I'm the right person to comment as I'm normally quite harsh and cold and definitely not subtle, but if you think she is dumping you but she hasn't said so in those words why not turn round and just tell her you've had enough of this sitting around thinking and waiting and that she is dumped unless she is willing to accept you as the person you are, warts and all.

Yes it'll be hard but from what you said in the original post and subsequent ones, you are getting screwed up and really don't need any extra pressure, as you say you've invested in the relationship emotionally but does that mean she can mess with your head and potentially your health?

Sorry but from the sounds of it, get shot of her, take some time out, chill and move on with your life, she really doesn't sound like your Mrs Right, and by dumping her you are taking control and trust me being in control in these conditions feels a million times better than when you're not, it'll hurt no matter what but get out and stay out and tell her so.

Just my take on it, no matter what you do I hope things work out for you

 

[Andy in Sig]

As someone who is allergic to texting and wary of mobile phones, my inclination would be to do something more in the "real" world, like take her out to dinner and have a long, honest chat and does twice as much listening as talking. That's got to be worth a zillion texts.

 

[Sittingduck]

Mate - sorry to hear this tale of heartache. Sounds to me like it's pretty much over and you will be happier (in the long run) without her. That may be hard to swallow but I think that what HeartAttack said makes a lot of sense. Somebody has to come out and say it. Might as well be you.

Hope it works out better for you both!

 

[Maz]

and even if you take her out of the equation 3-4 hours sleep is not good for anyone on a long term basis.

No, buggi, NO! Hiring a hitman would solve nothing!

 

[Twenty Inch]

Frickin' hell!

Sure it's not her mobile you're in love with? Have you tried talking face-to-face?

 

[Sh4rkyBloke]

NT - don't listen to anything Buggi says, she's just trying to split you up so she can have her evil way with you herself!!

Seriously though, hope you get it sorted out - text dumping, is this what the world has come to???

 

[spandex]

Sorry to hear that mate I have just been going down that road my self but mine was by Email, text.... yes it is not nice and you seem a nice bloke when I have met you in the past and you will find some one.