Long story short
Mr P left Army we moved back to his home town in Scotland, I had met the M-I-L twice but she seemed nice enough as did the rest of his family, we lasted 5 months and then moved nearly 500 miles away.
In the M-I-L eyes I am not Mrs P, we are living in sin, as he never asked the pope if it was okay or something when he divorced first wife, I was pregnant with User76 at the time she was so evil to me I almost miscarried due to stress of her and according to her User76 would be a demon child ( I kid you not she said those words) and no grandchild of hers as not only are we not married in her eyes, but I was not catholic either. She also pointed to Squidge and loudly said to Mr P "You do realise that is not your child". She was fine until Mr P paid off all her debts with some of Army payout and then when she asked for more money she was told we do not have it - then she turned into cowbag
Mr P's sister is exactly like her mother, Mr P's other brother does what Mummy tells him as he lives with M-I-L is 34 never had a job etc etc
Mr P speaks only to his nice brother who also escaped into the military at an early age (RAF) and it is the nice brother getting married, we like the nice brother, I have lots in common with nice brother we do talk lots he does visit and stuffs, we don't want to upset nice brother we want to see him get married.
BUT that means enduring the rest of them, especially M-I-L .
We have just found out it is to be small intimate wedding
so no chance of hiding
Nice brothers GF thinks MIL is lully, cos nice brother sends MIL lots of pennies every month so MIL does stroke his GF lots and be really nice to her.
Mr P does not speak about nor involved nice brother in what happened, although nice brother is aware something did and that we have nothing to do with her.
Mr P needs to have conversation with nice brother, sorry nice brother User76 will not be bridesmaid not unless MIL is not coming.