Just got a steep warning.

[nickyboy]

Each to his or her own. We have a bank account. All money goes in there. It is our money. We pay all the bills from this account. We can both spend what we want as long as we have the money to do so, but we always consult each other when spending anything over £100.

We have done it this way for 46 years.

Same
In the 28 years we've been together I've probably earned 90% of the money we've spent. But we're a team and I don't begrudge that one iota.
We could have set up some system so that I ended up with most of the surplus cash as I had earned it, but what would be the point of that?
Going back to @Julia9054 point, it seems quite a few men grew up happily as mummy's boys and subconsciously want a partner who reminds them of their mother. Hence the "weekend pass" "SWMBO" nonsense

 

[Venod]

Going back to @Julia9054 point, it seems quite a few men grew up happily as mummy's boys and subconsciously want a partner who reminds them of their mother. Hence the "weekend pass" "SWMBO" nonsense

I think too much is being read into these phrases, I know a few blokes who use these, but its just blokes banter, infact some of them use it as a term of enderment and none of them would regard the other half as the boss they would regard them equals.

 

[nickyboy]

I think too much is being read into these phrases, I know a few blokes who use these, but its just blokes banter, infact some of them use it as a term of enderment and none of them would regard the other half as the boss they would regard them equals.

Maybe, but it's interesting that you never hear women making similarly banterish references about their male partners. Is that cos women don't do banter (err.....no) or is it some other reason? Maybe cos women don't look for a father replacement in their partners?

 

[BoldonLad]

I think too much is being read into these phrases, I know a few blokes who use these, but its just blokes banter, infact some of them use it as a term of enderment and none of them would regard the other half as the boss they would regard them equals.

Quite.

 

[BoldonLad]

Maybe, but it's interesting that you never hear women making similarly banterish references about their male partners. Is that cos women don't do banter (err.....no) or is it some other reason? Maybe cos women don't look for a father replacement in their partners?

Speaking as a person with a wife, and four daughters, I wouldn’t be so sure about that, ie, women and banter.

A good relationship is not a war, but, a little humour helps, IMHO, of course

 

[BigMeatball]

Ask her how many pairs of shoes she has, and whatever the answer offer to buy her another pair even thou they can't all be worn at the same time,

Not really a fair argument as shoes are relatively cheaper compared to bikes

 

[Slick]

Not really a fair argument as shoes are relatively cheaper compared to bikes

Not when Mrs Slick is buying.

 

[Julia9054]

Maybe, but it's interesting that you never hear women making similarly banterish references about their male partners. Is that cos women don't do banter (err.....no) or is it some other reason? Maybe cos women don't look for a father replacement in their partners?

To be fair, you do amongst women talking. It goes along the lines of referring to their partners/husbands as if they are another, over indulged child in addition to the children they already have.
I find this style of female "banter" equally as annoying as the Male SWMBO version

 

[Julia9054]

Not when Mrs Slick is buying.

Ah yes. The tiresome bikes are toys for men, shoes are for women trope. Yawn.

 

[Slick]

Ah yes. The tiresome bikes are toys for men, shoes are for women trope. Yawn.

You know, you could lighten up a bit.

 

[Pale Rider]

Quite common in the North East for the woman in a relationship to deal with financial matters.

Several men I know have told me how in the days of weekly cash pay packets they would give the envelope to their partner and wait to be given some spending money from it.

In a conversation about bills, a common remark you will hear is: "She deals with all that."

I don't think the men who behave in that way are suffering from any sort of Oedipus complex, it's just a tradition that all things domestic and financial are the responsibility of the woman.

Of course, some feminists will moan about that, and there's no doubt those same men wouldn't reckon to do a lot of washing up or cleaning.

But at least the woman is being given significant responsibility for finance.

 

[Julia9054]

You know, you could lighten up a bit.

Yeah sorry.
I'll butt out and leave the boy's club to their bantz

 

[BigMeatball]

Quite common in the North East for the woman in a relationship to deal with financial matters.

Several men I know have told me how in the days of weekly cash pay packets they would give the envelope to their partner and wait to be given some spending money from it.

Men in the North East must be monkeys then?

Unable to deal with financial matters? How so? Can't do simple maths or would just spend all the wages on ales?

Either way, my sympathy goes to those poor women in the North East

 

[BoldonLad]

Men in the North East must be monkeys then?

Unable to deal with financial matters? How so? Can't do simple maths or would just spend all the wages on ales?

Either way, my sympathy goes to those poor women in the North East

“Quite common” does not equate to “all”.

My life experience suggests that incompetence is not defined by age, race, religion, gender, or, location.

 

[welsh dragon]

I think some men (not all) and those of a certain age may not be comfortable trying to pay bills online. They may feel out of their depth using comparison sites, dealing with companies etc. This may contribute to them leaving the bill paying and general finance keeping to their spouses.