The fact is your attitude towards others is appalling and your attitude towards yourself is even more so. It is a waste of time to be angry about your disability. You have to get on with life and other people with disability's such as Stephen Hawkins haven't done badly, and there is no reason why you could not achieve either. People won't have time for you if you are always angry or complaining.
Yea I know I have quoted the same post for the second time. this post focuses on the second part.
This post is not open to discussion to anyone other than "V" anyone quoting or posting regarding this post other than "V" I will ignore the post response.
Hey "V" It ever occur to you, I wasn't like this once upon a time? That experiences of "exclusion" has angered and changed my view of how, I see people, when I very rarely, see their good side and mostly see there abusive side?
(not to do with how I choose to see it, it is their actions, Like out right Lying to your face). Out right discriminating and they even openly admit it to your face, Then Laugh at you because of your lack of power to stop it. That just maybe there is a REAL injustice occurring, that Could not be addressed Due to a corrupt system that permits such injustice.?
When I read this portion of the post, what comes to mind and aptly describes it from my perspective: I should let them hit me in the face and only look at it positively and say thank you for hitting me in the face, do it again. While thinking to myself that being hit in the face is a good thing, and that is all I deserve and is right in the world.
Don't confuse trying to expose injustice with complaining. They can sound similar.
You mistaken, where my anger lies, it is not my disability I am angry about, I have learned to cope with it, and excel to be better than many of my peers, its the "EXCLUSION" committed by the employers who refused to hire me because of the impairments that anger me. This is NOT irrational thinking either. I have professionals and lawyers telling me this. BEFORE I BECAME BITTER , When I still believed I had a chance and wanted to earn my own way through life is when I was being excluded. My impairments was not stopping me. EMPLOYERS WERE.
It is NOT a complaint its a fact. Attitude wasn't the issue at the time. I conducted my interviews as I should, Presentable clothing and hygiene, Look them In the eye, be honest, present a resume, all the things recommended in trainings I been through.. I wouldn't lie. I refused, to compromise my moral and ethical integrity.
Your mistake is your assuming this bitterness was present, when I was being turned down with lies and outright discrimination. WHICH i could NOT fight against. Employment Lawyers, Themselves said it was classic discrimination, but their hands were tied. Due to the way the system was corrupted.
Seriously how the heck do you look at being discriminated against by exclusion on such a massive scale, That is damaging your health and quality of life, making it impossible for you to take care of yourself responsibly and stay positive? A realist would be mad as hell. And try to undo the injustice.
My current attitude would change if employers in general would be inclusive and not try to abuse or exclude, to save a buck, thinking that due to impairments, we should not get the same wage as everyone due to perceived inferiority..
But then My not working or job seeking isn't even the issue here. I currently get the disability insurance due to exclusion, which impacts how I interact with people. I refuse to cow over to people who think I am inferior.
Now just so you know, people that treat me fairly, at say farmers market and such, do not see this anger, except when I talk about how the employers were excluding. I had offers, to join them, on their farms, if I were to loose Disability insurance and such. I don't work for them due to lack of transportation to get there. Then, unless I live with them, I would not get paid enough to survive on. Most of the small farms can't afford to pay full cash wages. Room and board and shared meals is the bulk of the pay.
The Psychologist, I see does not agree with you about the so called attitude being the reason for my unemployable status, you are claiming That makes me unemployable. I have shared absolutely everything with him, Face to face weekly for 6+ years.. Including what I talk about on here. He has also been there before the bitterness/ anger set in. He KNOWS the actual circumstances in which lead to my unemployable nature. He has clearly expressed to me its not my fault, Early on, I thought it was Mine, That it was something I did. He opened my eyes it wasn't my actions..
There is another advantage my psychologist has over you, He gets to see my whole body language, You just get text, Body language, tone of voice says a lot text can't. I do at least half my communication or more using body language, Mainly as an adaptation to compensate for my hearing loss. A form of sign language. OK off color joke If you have seen the movie "5th element" With Bruce Willis. When the girl with the orange hair using body language while speaking an alien language. right after she falls into Willis's cab from above. That aptly describes me in regards to body language parody. That body language says a whole lot more than any spoken or written communication. body language = high definition, text/speech = analog.
Here is example but I do not use ASL "American Sign language"
View: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CQ9ALKp6WLk
and
View: http://vimeo.com/13608400
The second vid I can read it , signing it I am at a loss Watch his expressiveness Face, body posture etc. I do that , but I can not do that here. In the end there is too much your missing to make an accurate assessment via text. alone.. I also am speaking with my body language while writing these posts. Personally I wish they had a few thousand more smileys to the available list to build a visual story to show complex expressive emotions. to help put text in to context.
Disabled rider
PS then I am not sure how my life turned in to the focal of the topic when I had expressively pointed out that my personal example was meant to establish a point of perspective. and to show how the exclusion took place. Having my background Criticized was never my intention when starting the thread. Then again maybe I do know, It. Has to do when people try to analyze me and fail at it miserably. And then I have an instinctive feeling to step in and try to correct it. In the past when I ignored such comments, People started to seriously gang up on me making all of these "WRONG assumptions based on bad info given by people making a bad analysis of my background, Instead of focusing on the thread topic.In the process destroying any credibility I might of had.
Thread focus is suppose to be how policy causes exclusion of a protected class. And how allowing such policies to continue has a devastating effect on those with impairments. And saying that your communities does not have such policies is just plain wrong. The Atco incident is good example of the equality act failing to do as intended.
And this does apply to cycling.
V i Have not had a chance to read much beyond this point, If you had replied to the first reply to your post I have not seen it yet. when quoting it for a second time.
