With a few exceptions, I don't like riding with men, I am simply too slow to keep up, I feel I should go faster, try, end up totally knackered.
Mind, most of the women I ride with are faster than me too, but for some reason I don't feel obliged to keep up. With the girls we say to each other "I wait for you up the hill" and that is that, while some guys insist on riding along me, slower than they really are, but faster than me. It gives me anxiety.
Then there is the "caring" factor: when on an all girls ride, if one has a mechanical or any other difficulty, we all stop to assist.
If I tell the girls you go along, I'll stay to help with the puncture or whatever, nobody will go. If one struggles, we will split the group, somebody always stays with the person struggling.
In a mixed group I have often seen the men leaving behind other men to sort out their problems, once a (male, experienced ride leader) practically abandoned another (male) that crashed, he left him to take a train home by himself, half dazed.
Another time, on a forum ride, 2 guys heard us girls screaming - one had lost a wheel on ice - they never even turned around! After they reasoned, well, if you were screaming you obviously were still alive. Charming!
Then there was the time when the male ride leader went miles ahead without waiting for me and a few others: ok, we only stopped for a comfort break, but we could have had a crash.
There is also the trust factor: I don't like riding bunched up with guys, I find their riding aggressive. By large, riding with girls feels safer, even the wobbly ones, I can predict what they are going to do, men I cannot.
Finally there is the patronizing factor: do I really have to be told, on losing my chain on a deserted country road, to "find a safe place to stop"?
Or to spin up a hill? Effoff, leave me to die in peace
