I completely understand where everyone is coming from having been around women's cycling [the term is women not ladies unless men become gentlemen, highly unlikely] for a long time. Sensibilities are easily bruised when discussing gender participation, stereotyping is rife, more often from men but sometimes from women too.
What you ride, how you ride, what clothes you ride in [with the one exception of wearing the world championship rainbow jersey] should not be a subject that attracts criticism yet it frequently does on CC [I have been guilty of this in the past when referring to sportive riders].
Who a woman wants to ride with is obviously an individual choice, if they would rather ride with other women, perhaps because their experiences of riding with men has not been a happy one, is of course up to them. There are clubs that cater for all abilities but not as many as I would like to see, Cambridge CC is one such, everything from a potter [I have seen folk turn up on sit up with baskets on the front] to race training and women and men ride together in all 5 groups. The turn out ranges from about 80 to 120 on a Sunday morning, I reckon they are doing something right.
I personally prefer riding with women, they are usually always comfortable with the level they are riding at with nothing to prove. A high percentage of men however think every hill is to be raced in order to prove they are somehow top dog, which incidentally they are almost always not.
Personally I/we would like to see more women riding bikes, it is a frequent discussion in this house as those of you who know us will appreciate. The reasons why there are not more are many and varied, not least is culture and to a slightly lesser extent, intimidation, though this applies to some men too. Numbers are rising and hopefully in the future a tipping point will be reached [also for cycling in general in relation to the number of car drivers who also ride a bike] where any woman will feel comfortable on a bike at what ever level they are at.
Everyone has to start somewhere, not something everyone seems to remember.