The Retirement Thread

[Dave7]

Morning all, have very mixed feelings this morning, had a very strange day yesterday.
I had a early from my mums Lifeline control than my mum had a fall again and the paramedics had been called . I went over and she had been checked over and she was fine but I decided because of this and other problems I would have to phone social services today to get her reviewed with a view to getting her into a care home.
Later in the day I have another call from Lifeline , I see the number and I expect to to be told she had another fall, only to be told she had passed away.
She had been cooking her dinner and was found sat on the seat on her walker in the kitchen.
So I am very sad today ( there might just be tears in my eyes as I write this ) but glad she died with dignity in her own home rather than after a fall or in a care home.
Sorry for the down beat post 😢

Sad to read that.
Glad to hear you say the bit about dying with dignity.....possibly the only positive thing to take out of an unpleasant situation.

 

[Dave7]

I'm curious, why scary.

Because the thought of all that work frightens me

 

[Deleted member 1258]

Because the thought of all that work frightens me

Yes, but its not a huge amount of work though, I was always a manual worker, this is a fraction of the amount of work I was likely to do on a normal day before I retired.

 

[Dave7]

If the washing is in the machine, but not being washed in it, what's it doing there?

I have very intelligent undykeks......they press the buttons and away it goes

 

[classic33]

I have very intelligent undykeks......they press the buttons and away it goes

They press all the right buttons.

 

[rustybolts]

Morning all, have very mixed feelings this morning, had a very strange day yesterday.
I had a early from my mums Lifeline control than my mum had a fall again and the paramedics had been called . I went over and she had been checked over and she was fine but I decided because of this and other problems I would have to phone social services today to get her reviewed with a view to getting her into a care home.
Later in the day I have another call from Lifeline , I see the number and I expect to to be told she had another fall, only to be told she had passed away.
She had been cooking her dinner and was found sat on the seat on her walker in the kitchen.
So I am very sad today ( there might just be tears in my eyes as I write this ) but glad she died with dignity in her own home rather than after a fall or in a care home.
Sorry for the down beat post 😢

Very sorry for you , you have the consolation she died with dignity , wishing you peace

 

[PaulSB]

Quite scary reading isn't it.

Yep!

 

[Paulus]

Out and about on this nice day

 

[classic33]

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Out and about on this nice day

End cap on the left front mustard stay is missing.

 

[Paulus]

End cap on the left front mustard stay is missing.

No it's not. A trick of the light

 

[Tenkaykev]

Morning all

Yet another nice day ahead.
Off to the Doom Bar and Polzeath this morning.
Still no sign of Rick Stein.

I read an excellent book a few years ago called “ Down and out in Padstow and London “
The author had been a journalist with the Grauniad IIRC, he’d always had a hankering to become a Chef, so he chucked his job and set out to fulfil his dream. It’s a great account of his journey from the most menial of kitchen jobs, to working in some of the top restaurant kitchens ( including Rick Stein and Heston Blumenthal ) with several eye opening insights as to what really goes on.

 

[Tenkaykev]

Gosh, what a shock for you being so sudden but hope you find some comfort that, like you say, she got to remain at home and it sounds like her end was probably very peaceful.

So sorry for your loss Mo, words aren’t really enough at times like this. Please accept a big virtual hug.

 

[Mo1959]

So sorry for your loss Mo, words aren’t really enough at times like this. Please accept a big virtual hug.

Not me.........it's Laser who's sadly lost his mum.

 

[ColinJ]

Many thanks for all the kind words .
She was one of those nice people that never had a bad word to say to anyone, but she had a series of health problems for the last 40 years which she always faced with a smile on her face.
Tbh I never thought she would ever made 87. She moved into sheltered housing after my dad died 11 years ago . She loved it , made loads of new friends so her last decade was a really happy place 😀

I'm very sorry to hear about your mum, but that has to be the way to go - peacefully, at home, without extended suffering.

My mum was the same age when she died. She moved into nice sheltered accommodation a few years after my dad died. Unfortunately, she didn't get her wish to pass away there. She got ill and spent the last year of her life in hospital; she hated that. I actually think that it would have been kinder to have kept her back at home even if it had shortened her life by a few months.

 

[Dirk]

It set me thinking......you don't know, at our age, whether you've got 30 minutes, 30 days or 30 years left. Make the most of it.

Went to St Enedoc church this morning to see Sir John Betjeman's grave.
Very nice spot overlooking the sea from the 12th century church.

Couldn't find a pub that was open, so back to the van for a sarnie and a beer.