The Retirement Thread

[oldwheels]

Yes, today I took all the bedding off, turned the mattress, put all new bedding on them washed and dried all the old stuff.
I have also washed and dried the bathroom mats etc.
Tomorrow morning I will do the same with a weeks washing ie clothes.
I am officially knackered

Bathroom mats are a trip hazard and we were advised to remove them.

 

[oldwheels]

No. TBH I always go through the gallery. I thought that was the only way.
I will be interested in replies.

That is what I do also.

 

[Dave7]

Bathroom mats are a trip hazard and we were advised to remove them.

So what is the bathroom floor made up of ie lino, tiles ??

 

[classic33]

OWs.. may I ask how old you were when your wife died?
Reason for asking is, if my wife can't walk, shower, bath etc I have no idea how I can cope.
12 months ago I felt like Superman, now I don't

Would she want Superman or yourself though?

 

[Dave7]

Would she want Superman or yourself though?

I understand your comment but it doesn't help me get her in/out of the bath etc.

 

[oldwheels]

So what is the bathroom floor made up of ie lino, tiles ??

The bathroom floor is some sort of vinyl fitted wall to wall with a special shower tray under recessed onto a cut out of the wood floor. It is turned up inside the inner wall lining and was done by a firm of carpet fitters. The whole job took nearly a week involving a carpenter, plumber as well as an electrician.The bathroom is really small and with an awkward window was difficult to do and keep within regulation measurements.
I may try for a picture tomorrow to illustrate this.

 

[classic33]

We questioned the DNR at hospital today. We were told, MrsD is fully compus mentus so we don't need to speak to you.
So.... they have a 70 year old lady going through everything she has faced this week, completely on her own......they tell her "this is what we are putting in your notes".....she says "oh, ok".....and that's it!!!
Criminal !

Find out, if you or your daughter hasn't already, if the details of the DNR have been recorded as fact or opinion on the records.

Opinion can be challenged very easily, fact can be a bit harder do. Opinion can be marked as just that, on the records.

 

[Deleted member 1258]

OWs.. may I ask how old you were when your wife died?
Reason for asking is, if my wife can't walk, shower, bath etc I have no idea how I can cope.
12 months ago I felt like Superman, now I don't

If you're wife can't look after herself they should put a care package in place when she comes out of hospital, down here we have a six week free trial before the package is finalised, we are in the change over period at the moment and we've yet to discuss the cost, if you can't help with the care let the care staff take care of it.

 

[Exlaser2]

I understand your comment but it doesn't help me get her in/out of the bath etc.

That’s why care packages and carers themselves are so important and also why wifes ,husbands , partners , sons and daughters etc should never feel guilty for accepting help from what ever the source.

 

[Exlaser2]

Find out, if you or your daughter hasn't already, if the details of the DNR have been recorded as fact or opinion on the records.

Opinion can be challenged very easily, fact can be a bit harder do. Opinion can be marked as just that, on the records.

Also talk to your wife if this is really what she wants

 

[12boy]

Dave 7, getting an adult, especially someone in pain, out of a tub can require a sling and can be damn difficult by yourself. There are plastic stools with grips that will go in a shower and really make it easier to enter or get out. There are also tubs with a swingout side that are watertight when closed. If someone can try to walk but it is iffy, my rehab had a stout belt that could be held by an aide in case I fell. I would also hook it over the bottom of the bed and use it to get to sitting up when I'd been lying on my back. Sounds very much like if you can get Mrs D's back squared away everything will be easier, but until you do, these sort of things may help.
My experience for 30 years with disability claims is that feeling helpless and suffering constant pain leads to another problem, severe depression. A way to help with the powerless feeling is to involve the patient as much as possible with making decisions and participating as much as they can. For example, a person who cannot stand up to cook could perhaps peel potatoes or snap green beans and thereby feel they can still make a contribution.
Just a thought.

 

[Mo1959]

Morning. A bit nippy up here at the moment. Should be nice for a brisk walk though.

Just reading back the posts to catch up. This getting old isn’t much fun is it As for the DNRs I think it’s shocking. Most of us want to cling onto life for as long as possible as long as we are not in severe pain.

 

[Deleted member 1258]

Good morning all.

 

[Drago]

I have risen!

Click and collect shopping day todsy.

 

[Dave7]

Popped in to the Mundane News thread today for the first time. Don't let anyone ever tell you we're all slightly bonkers in here!!! Mundane. Wow!

Don't think I have ever checked that section out.
Is it worth a look ?
Where is is, I don't recognise the title.
Edit.
Forget that... .I just found it