The Retirement Thread

[Exlaser2]

I always use the dealer where I bought my car. It's owned by Gwyndaf Evans. His son is a rally driver and just missed winning the championship this year. Never have a problem with them and they pick my car up and being it back as well.

Gwyndaf Evans was a good rally driver too

 

[PaulSB]

Well, I've aggravated my Achilles. Not happy with this. I think it will be an ice pack evening.

Just had a call from Sandy at an energy company. She asked "how are you today?" I told her my Achilles is a bit stiff. Well, she asked.

Popped in to the Mundane News thread today for the first time. Don't let anyone ever tell you we're all slightly bonkers in here!!! Mundane. Wow!

Mushroom Stroganoff for tea. Pure coincidence @welsh dragon .......I must go and cook before Mrs P returns.

 

[PaulSB]

Here, on BBC2, we have a program about sewage at 9:00pm, can't wait

So more shite on the telly tonight........ right the kitchen calls.

 

[numbnuts]

So more shite on the telly tonight........ right the kitchen calls.

And just think you are paying for that

 

[welsh dragon]

Well, I've aggravated my Achilles. Not happy with this. I think it will be an ice pack evening.

Just had a call from Sandy at an energy company. She asked "how are you today?" I told her my Achilles is a bit stiff. Well, she asked.

Popped in to the Mundane News thread today for the first time. Don't let anyone ever tell you we're all slightly bonkers in here!!! Mundane. Wow!

Mushroom Stroganoff for tea. Pure coincidence @welsh dragon .......I must go and cook before Mrs P returns.

It's very errrrrr mundane over that way.

 

[PaulSB]

Apologies I mislead you all on DNR notices in care homes. It's been found there are some care homes which have implemented a blanket DNR policy.

https://www.theguardian.com/society...rders-imposed-on-english-care-homes-finds-cqc

 

[ColinJ]

I read somewhere recently it is now standard practice to put DNR notices on care home residents. I must try and find that article.

Here, 3 hours ago...?

I saw it on the news earlier. It has been done hundreds of times without consulting the patients or their families!

Apologies I mislead you all on DNR notices in care homes. It's been found there are some care homes which have implemented a blanket DNR policy.

https://www.theguardian.com/society...rders-imposed-on-english-care-homes-finds-cqc

Yes - that's the one!

 

[Dave7]

I just do things when they need doing except the washing and changing the bed that's done weekly

Yes, today I took all the bedding off, turned the mattress, put all new bedding on them washed and dried all the old stuff.
I have also washed and dried the bathroom mats etc.
Tomorrow morning I will do the same with a weeks washing ie clothes.
I am officially knackered

 

[Dave7]

My local garage in the good old days was where you went for a gents haircut as well as a blether and a cup of coffee.

And something for the weekend sir

 

[Dave7]

Backwards is the best way as I had the same problem. We also had steps and we were going to be supplied with a stair climbing machine but my wife died before it was delivered.
I got a demo in Glasgow of the machine which would have been very handy.

OWs.. may I ask how old you were when your wife died?
Reason for asking is, if my wife can't walk, shower, bath etc I have no idea how I can cope.
12 months ago I felt like Superman, now I don't

 

[Paulus]

I seem to of lost the ability on my 'phone to take a photo when replying to a thread. I used to be able to take a snap and post it immediately.
I now have to go through images and then click on an image in the gallery.
Anyone else?

 

[Dave7]

I had a brush with this kind of thing a few months ago . My mums surgery had noted she had the ambulance out a couple of times in the night because of having falls , the doctor wanted to know if she could help. We had a great conversation and she sent the practice nurse out to see my mum the next day . All went well , lots of good advice and practical help was given and organised. But then she started taking about a new form all surgeries had to fill in and it turn out it was about DNR . A copy is left in the persons house for the ambulance crew . The trouble started when my old mum said no, as the nurse kept asking the same questions in different ways . I felt my mum was being pressurised and stepped and told the nurse my mum had made her wishes clear in wanting to be resuscitated. My mum is 87 and has mild dementia but is still capable of making her mind up at this point and when she isn’t capable, the instructions in the POA will kick in.

The whole thing made me feel very uncomfortable as if I had not been there she could have signed and how many other old people up and down the country have been put in the same position .

We questioned the DNR at hospital today. We were told, MrsD is fully compus mentus so we don't need to speak to you.
So.... they have a 70 year old lady going through everything she has faced this week, completely on her own......they tell her "this is what we are putting in your notes".....she says "oh, ok".....and that's it!!!
Criminal !

 

[Dave7]

I seem to of lost the ability on my 'phone to take a photo when replying to a thread. I used to be able to take a snap and post it immediately.
I now have to go through images and then click on an image in the gallery.
Anyone else?

No. TBH I always go through the gallery. I thought that was the only way.
I will be interested in replies.

 

[numbnuts]

And something for the weekend sir

When I was married I never had anything for the weekend, I was always bloody working

 

[oldwheels]

OWs.. may I ask how old you were when your wife died?
Reason for asking is, if my wife can't walk, shower, bath etc I have no idea how I can cope.
12 months ago I felt like Superman, now I don't

I would have been 79 but since then I feel more like 99 now.
We had a semi wet room which had a seat in the shower and I rigged up a battery powered doorbell system so that she could be left in the toilet and ring when she wanted assistance to get out. We had the bath removed to achieve this.
She could hardly walk but I developed a system of walking behind holding on to her until we reached a seat in the house.
Her specialist nurse said it was highly illegal but she would not object as it was practical.
She could sometimes use a walker with a seat but several times I had to borrow a supermarket wheel chair to get her back to the car or van. I preferred the motorhome as it had it’s own toilet if required but with a radar key we could use supermarket or other places with locked facilities for the disabled using the wheelchair
Nights were the worst tho’ as I often got very little sleep.
I could book her into a local respite centre to allow me to get away cycling and catch up on sleep but she referred to it as a hellhole and was ringing me constantly wanting to go home. It was actually a very good place of it’s kind but I could understand her dislike. It was subsidised by the local council so not too expensive and in any case the only available place.
I was only able to get a fixed 4 or 5 hours respite per week every Thursday but I could not leave the island in case of delay getting back.
Any mainland visits I had to take her with me but she had a Blue Badge which made parking easier and I had a couple of places I could leave her. My daughter in law is an experienced carer and was always available and in Glasgow her brother and wife were retired medicals so were available.
Latterly she had difficulty telling fact from fiction and she made a silly joke to a community nurse who did not bother to consult the specialist nurse but ran straight to social services and caused a considerable rumpus. I have never and never will forgive her for the trouble she caused.
Her specialist nurse became a great friend and went well beyond the normal duties. She would have had my guts for garters if she thought I had been mistreating her.
I have no idea what she said at the next staff meeting but she certainly read the riot act and killed the whole thing stone dead.
This seems to have unleashed a long tale but any info I have I am willing to share.