The Retirement Thread

[oldwheels]

It was possible to get a relief sitting service Under the cuts they may not be available.Speak to Social services or if you have one your Social worker may be able to advise Age concern may be able to advise.
Sitting services carers said how important it was for them knowing they could have a short break.

Your needs as a carer are important for your well being
Hope you are able to get into a routine that meets both yours and Mrs D needs.

Best wishes to you both.🥰

I eventually got a carer for 4 hours per week. The whole set up was a pain as it came from a private company but I got reimbursed for the cost from some social work set up. It was so complicated that I was advised to consult a lawyer before signing the papers and I had to set up a separate bank account to get the payments. One of the carers was good but another was hopeless and sometimes did not turn up.
My wife's wedding ring was not to be found after she died and I heard of someone else making the same remark. I often wonder just where it went as she did not always wear it and it lay on a side table beside her.

 

[12boy]

Juan K...I calls it "bike medicine" and I am an addict.
Working with people with disabilities and their families, and seeing the toll sustained caregiving takes on the caregiver, I have to second those who have said that you need to maintain your own health, mental and physical. The way I see it you need to take care of yourself if you are going to take care of someone else. It is good to remember that it isn't a sprint, it is a marathon, and sometimes it becomes a way of life. My Dr once told me there is no health problem that doesn't go better if you are in good shape to begin with, and I've come to see that includes helping other people with their health problems as well.
We watched "The Dig" last night, and enjoyed it a lot.

-16C, -25C with windchill this morning. It will get considerably colder as the the week goes on, with Wed night dropping down to -25. We usually get a couple of weeks of this each winter, and I've heard it said that is why there are no termites in Wyoming. It is almost balmy compared to the weather further north. There will be only indoor exercise and a few walks for me for a while.
Be safe and well...

 

[Juan Kog]

Does anyone know a good ant depressant Why? Just been binge watching Wallender miserable git Only two more episodes to go I will have to get Mrs p to lock away all the tablets a and sharpe implements

Is that the original Swedish or the Kenneth Branagh English language version. Or all of them in one go

 

[ColinJ]

One of the carers was good but another was hopeless and sometimes did not turn up.

My mum had carers for 3 or 4 years before her final year, which was spent in hospital.

One carer in particular was very nice. She got so friendly with my mum that she rearranged her rota to make that visit the last of the evening. That meant that they could spend more time together. They used to sit and chat and watch soaps on TV. When my mum died the carer came to the funeral and shed as many tears as family members did.

At the other end of the spectrum was one who was spectacularly bad... She used to spend half the time that she was supposed to be caring, not caring less! When I visited I would sometimes spot her out in her car on her phone for 20 minutes then she would pop in and rush through the bare minimum. I looked in the care book and she claimed to have been doing things that I was pretty she that she was NOT doing. For example, she said that she had given my mother a bath. Well ma hadn't had a bath for several years - we'd had an extension built to the back of the house with a wet room in it so she always showered. I checked - no baths! This kind of thing went on for a while until the carer turned up hours late one morning, looking very dishevelled and stinking of booze. We complained to the care company. They got back to us that evening and told us that the carer had been fired. Every person she went to that day had made a complaint about her!

 

[welsh dragon]

My mum has a carer every morning. She is there for an hour or so. My mum has nothing but praise for her and the others that take over when her normal carer is on holiday.

 

[Dirk]

We watched "The Dig" last night, and enjoyed it a lot.

Just started to watch it.
MrsD and I do enjoy visiting archaeological sites on our travels. Been to many of the Bronze Age and Iron Age sites across the south west of England.
I know the programme was on Netflix this week but I've found a free stream of it on Vumoo.
Ralph Fiennes seems to be doing a passable Suffolk act.

 

[welsh dragon]

Just started to watch it.
MrsD and I do enjoy visiting archaeological sites on our travels. Been to many of the Bronze Age and Iron Age sites across the south west of England.
I know the programme was on Netflix this week but I've found a free stream of it on Vumoo.
Ralph Fiennes seems to be doing a passable Norfolk act.

I watched it this afternoon on Netflix. I quite enjoyed it.

 

[postman]

Mrs P is going out and getting her walking in.Me still can't be bothered.No mojo,I'll go to the library tomorrow.That will get me out.

 

[classic33]

And on important subjects........I am preparing to hang my jigsaw .
Its all glued.
The backing board is ready to trim.
I have just been out to buy some heavy duty, double sided foam backed tape.
I have the hanging wire
What could possibly go wrong

Where do I start?

 

[pawl]

Is that the original Swedish or the Kenneth Branagh English language version. Or all of them in one go

Kenneth Branagh

 

[classic33]

I believe none of his neighbours knew were Classic was last night
Just sayin like

Went for a walk just after half two, no-where much. Quiet country roads.

 

[pawl]

I eventually got a carer for 4 hours per week. The whole set up was a pain as it came from a private company but I got reimbursed for the cost from some social work set up. It was so complicated that I was advised to consult a lawyer before signing the papers and I had to set up a separate bank account to get the payments. One of the carers was good but another was hopeless and sometimes did not turn up.
My wife's wedding ring was not to be found after she died and I heard of someone else making the same remark. I often wonder just where it went as she did not always wear it and it lay on a side table beside her.

That is unacceptable.One reason I took early retirement was the introduction of thr private sector into the discharge procedures I won’t go into details suffice to say the procedures were not what I signed up for

The consultant who was a good friend and occasionally a cycling companion to tell had decided to retire and that the multidisciplinary team had been split up

 

[oldwheels]

My mum had carers for 3 or 4 years before her final year, which was spent in hospital.

One carer in particular was very nice. She got so friendly with my mum that she rearranged her rota to make that visit the last of the evening. That meant that they could spend more time together. They used to sit and chat and watch soaps on TV. When my mum died the carer came to the funeral and shed as many tears as family members did.

At the other end of the spectrum was one who was spectacularly bad... She used to spend half the time that she was supposed to be caring, not caring less! When I visited I would sometimes spot her out in her car on her phone for 20 minutes then she would pop in and rush trough the bare minimum. I looked in the care book and she claimed to have been doing things that I was pretty she that she was NOT doing. For example, she said that she had given my mother a bath. Well ma hadn't had a bath for several years - we'd had an extension built to the back of the house with a wet room in it so she always showered. I checked - no baths! This kind of thing went on for a while until the carer turned up hours late one morning, looking very dishevelled and stinking of booze. We complained to the care company. They got back to us that evening and told us that the carer had been fired. Every person she went to that day had made a complaint about her!

The carers I had were there only to keep an eye on her and help her walk to the loo tho' she could be left alone once inside. They had to make sure she took the required pills at the right time and also make sure she had her lunch which they could share as I left enough for two. The useless one complained that she did not like home made rolls I left and she did not like soup with lumps in it tho' eating was not compulsory. Timing was important so far as the pills were concerned but they were left out in order. They were not required by me to do any work. The better one was local and they were able to talk about local affairs and events. The other was an incomer with no local knowledge.

 

[Dirk]

Watched 'The Dig'.
Not overly impressed.
Too many anachronisms, woke casting, unnecessary back stories.
Too little archaeology.
About par for the course these days, though.
Bit surprised that Basil didn't have a romantic interest in Charles, or that Peggy wasn't a lesbian in a wheelchair.

 

[Juan Kog]

Kenneth Branagh

Now you can make a start on the Swedish originals, I hope your eyesight is up to all those subtitles or you could learn Swedish .