My Wife Wants Me to Hear Her - Help

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Shut Up Legs

Down Under Member
On a serious note, get the test done. There is nothng worse than having to put up with someone who can't hear anything and who keeps asking you what's being said.
Actually there is something worse: being that person :rolleyes:. I speak from first-hand experience.
 

Ganymede

Veteran
Location
Rural Kent
Yes, I've had hearing aids from an early age, because my hearing loss is congenital.
My Dad's mother went fairly deaf at the end, though she died at 81 or 83 and Dad is 87 now. So I have already talked this over with Mr G: I have promised to get a hearing aid when he tells me.
 
I have a misspent youth

Personally I blame any hearing loss on Motorhead, Hawkwind, Van Halen, Thin Lizzy, Black Sabbath etc....
 
My mother has dementia,and my MiL is partially deaf and partially sighted ... they get along like a house on fire!

My mother talks and repeats incessantly, and the MiL can't hear her so just nods occasionally - perfect combination
 

Saluki

World class procrastinator
Hubster has hearing aids, really cool purple ones and free on the NHS. He doesn't wear them all the time so he still can't hear me when I ask him to wash up, help with the housework and whatnot. He can hear if I ask if he wants a bit of cake or some beer though. Funny that.

Just get the test. you can always 'lose' your hearing aids at a later date.
 

byegad

Legendary Member
Location
NE England
In my experience a lot of older folk feign deafness or exaggerate its effects because they simply don't want to her the crap that most people talk.

Rubbish. At 60 I was unable to make out most of what was said on TV or live by a woman. Why? Because I've lost the upper range of my hearing, the part that most women speak in. A hearing aid, I really need two, means I can not only hear my wife and the TV, but also the Skylarks. I hadn't heard the Skylarks in 10 years before I got the aid! I really missed them.
 

Auntie Helen

Ich bin Powerfrau!
I'm 43 and have had a hearing aid in my left ear for about three years.

I've lost the upper frequencies in both ears so, like a poster above, I struggle to hear women's voices although men's voices are much easier. I am also unable to hear the ending "n't" so the different between did and didn't, is and isn't, which is often the most vital part of the sentence! Now I am living in Germany and speaking German it is easier as the negative, nicht, is far more audible. Plus Germans speak more clearly anyway.

I was excited when I got my first hearing aid - until they stuck it in my ear. It is nowhere near any approximation of normal hearing; it is an aid, and does make a difference in some circumstances, but I remove it when at all possible. I can't use it when listening to classical music, for example. If on my own in the house (like now) I don't wear it. In very noisy environments it doesn't help much either. The place where it is useful for me is in environments with some background noise and where the light is a bit dim (so I can't easily lipread) and when I am talking to women.

One thing I have learned is that the brain does adjust to it so eventually it sounds better but it's still nothing like when I had a decent set of ears and as someone who loves music that is a shame. The choir that I sing with meets in a noisy echoey room so I cannot hear a thing if anyone else talks at the same time as the choir director; fortunately I am reasonable at lipreading and I have a friend at the choir who can tell me later anything I miss.
 
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