The compression ring is upside down. (The grey thing with notches on it)
Fork in, upper race as you have it. The add the compression ring. This is in effect a wedge and tightens the top race against the bearings. Then the upper ring and seals. Now add spacers, then the stem, with 3 mm of stem above the top of the steerer. Now add the topcap and tighten the bolt. The topcap acts on the stem, then the spacers, then the top cover and compression ring preloading the bearings. Once you've eliminated teh play, tighten the stem bolts. This holds everything in place. Simples. (once you know how)