First of all, I 100% reiterate the post above from
@tom73. Get an appointment with a specialist urology nurse - probably at the urology dept of the hospital where you see your specialists - and
please take a written list of questions, options and other matters you want to ask about and discuss, because otherwise you WILL forget something which is vital
to you.
The nurse will
not tell you 'what to do', but s/he
will give you the sort of information which both expands your knowledge about your condition and its treatment, and which may well lead to further questions. They will likely also ask you what
your priorities and expectations are, and what results
you would like. If your expectations are unrealistic, they will discuss this with you.
I will never experience BPH, but if you were my partner, and as a (now retired) medical
physicist - I AM
NOT A PHYSICIAN - who long ago did some early work on medical lasers with Prof Jacobi in Munich, and maintained an 'interest from afar' in them, I'd be suggesting the lasers, as opposed to TURP, if it's on offer. It is (reasonably) minimally invasive with a significantly shorter recovery time and fewer side effects than TURP. Its main disadvantage is probably that it's not possible to take a sample of the gland for biopsy.
I can understand
totally why your urologists are cautious about saying either TURP or laser will lead to any actual improvement in the situation with your hypotonic bladder.
However, bear in mind that if BPH remains untreated it
will only get worse. Regardless of your statement that the BPH is 'mild', they must consider it worth treating surgically at this point in time, if they have offered you the option. it is not done lightly.
You need to discuss what your options are, and the best - really the only - person you should be doing this with, is a specialist in urology. A specialist urology nurse (or other clinician, if a specialist in the subject) will be, in almost all cases, a far better person for this discussion that an actual urologist or urological surgeon.