Here's the thing, I have a mate called Graham and I have a Cousin Graham.Now I used to do a lot of things along with (mate) Graham and a few others (Bike Race Meets, Beer and Music festivals etc) and when talking to my Mum or other family members about these things just referred to him as Graham but if I was talking about my Cousin (Original owner of the Carlton Clubman) I always prefixed it with 'Our' likewise with 2 other Cousins John and Mark.