Trivial things that make you annoyed beyond expectations?

[glasgowcyclist]

Im not aggressive or sexist, in the instance i mentioned i saw it as an appropriate response. Ever been cut up on a roundabout where the person doesnt acknowledge your existence even for a 'semi' apology...nope they just keep going in their selfish little bubble and others are of no consequence. This was the scenario in the supermarket ie i was being ignored as an intrusion on her world and if my presence wasnt acknowledged the problem would go away. I disabused her of the notion in a forceful way, i didnt hurt anyone but it did shock the person out of their selfish delusion.

Seems a bit extreme for the circumstances. You went from silence to swearing without even trying an 'excuse me, please'? That's not appropriate, that's plain rude.
The comparison with dangerous behaviour on a road is nonsensical.

 

[mudsticks]

Im not aggressive or sexist, in the instance i mentioned i saw it as an appropriate response. Ever been cut up on a roundabout where the person doesnt acknowledge your existence even for a 'semi' apology...nope they just keep going in their selfish little bubble and others are of no consequence. This was the scenario in the supermarket ie i was being ignored as an intrusion on her world and if my presence wasnt acknowledged the problem would go away. I disabused her of the notion in a forceful way, i didnt hurt anyone but it did shock the person out of their selfish delusion.

From what you've said you went from 'not having your presence acknowledged'

As you stood quietly waiting.

Because the people were absorbed in talking to each other , albeit 'badly parked'

To seething at their lack of attentiveness, and becoming aggressive and chucking about expletives as you barged past .

If that's what you did then that is aggressive.

Is there no 'middle way' for you where you can cheerily call out

"Excuse me can I get past"..

If I encounter a bunch of animated guys 'chatting' or very often 'shouting' together, on a pavement .

What I don't do is barge through flinging about expletives .

In order to disabuse them of their 'selfish notions'

But I guess I don't do that because I know if be putting myself at real and grave risk .

 

[welsh dragon]

I was in Tesco and had a bout of 'trolley rage'.....I was walking down an aisle when my progress was halted by a woman chatting and her trolley broadside to the aisle...i waited a few seconds for my presence to be recognised but no...carried on chatting....so f*** this...i barged through and told her to get out the ****ing way!

That Annoys me as well. They are just standing there yacking ( gossiping) about nothing. I just say in a very loud voice EXCUSE ME. They soon move.

 

[Mo1959]

That Annoys me as well. They are just standing there yacking ( gossiping) about nothing. I just say in a very loud voice EXCUSE ME. They soon move.

Have to admit, the red mist gets close with me too with ignorant people. So tempting to play skittles with them!

 

[Oldhippy]

It's when people look at you like you are being totally unreasonable.

 

[mudsticks]

It's when people look at you like you are being totally unreasonable.

Do you barge through them swearing.

Or do you say 'excuse me please' first..

??

There's quite a big difference in approach.

We all get a bit annoyed when held up from proceeding with our 'very important lives'

Apparently car drivers even do it with cyclists so I've heard ..


How do you know for sure what they're thinking when they look at you ??

'Startled' because they were deep in conversation and have only just 'woken up' to their surroundings.

And 'looking at you as if you're being quite unreasonable' could be two very similar expressions, esp on someone you don't know .

I dunno, but If you really want to live up to your self styled 'hippy' persona you might need to try a bit more peace, love and understanding

Not to mention not always assuming, or projecting the worst of peoples motivations, or thoughts

 

[Oldhippy]

Do you barge through them swearing.

Or do you say 'excuse me please' first..

??

There's quite a big difference in approach.

We all get a bit annoyed when held up from proceeding with our 'very important lives'

Apparently car drivers even do it with cyclists so I've heard ..


How do you know for sure what they're thinking when they look at you ??

'Startled' because they were deep in conversation and have only just 'woken up' to their surroundings.

And 'looking at you as if you're being quite unreasonable' could be two very similar expressions, esp on someone you don't know .

I dunno, but If you really want to live up to your self styled 'hippy' persona you might need to try a bit more peace, love and understanding

Not to mention not always assuming, or projecting the worst of peoples motivations, or thoughts

I am always polite of course, it's when they just give the 'can't you see I'm busy' look and don't move thinking it is their inalienable right to be an entitled d*ck that I get the hump.

 

[Electric_Andy]

so f*** this...i barged through and told her to get out the ****ing way!

Did you really do that, or are you exagerating? I was once a recipient of this appalling behaviour; a man with 3 year old in the trolley crashed through my trolley at speed, whilst he told his son "that's what you do if people are in the way". Lucky he had a child with him, and so did I, else I would have told him how to conduct oneself in public. But with kids around I didn't know how he'd react so I kept silent.

If you did do the above, you're an idiot and deserve the thrashing you're going to get one day when you do it to the wrong person.

What is it about supermarkets, or is it shopping trolleys, that makes you think you can behave rudely?

 

[mudsticks]

I am always polite of course, it's when they just give the 'can't you see I'm busy' look and don't move thinking it is their inalienable right to be an entitled d*ck that I get the hump.

Well that's a bit different isn't it ??

But for a moment there, I thought you were approving the 'barging through swearing like a oaf' behaviour .

Must have been one of those classic slip of the 'like' buttons I guess

 

[swee'pea99]

The knobs on gas hobs. They always have a twisting 'range' of 200 degrees+, but effectively use only a quarter of it, going at low levels in just a few degrees from almost nothing to full pressure, with everything beyond that redundant, making it all but impossible to get the low level heat you want exactly right. It's like having a bike with a sprocket for low, another medium, then eight high. Every hob I've ever used/owned has been like this.

 

[Andy in Germany]

As far as I remember men tend to be more aware of movement, whereas women more aware of colour. This related to the days when men needed movement awareness, like thicker skin and a greater resistance to the cold, because they were out hunting and had to see threats, or prey.

This could go some way to explaining why in several cases above the people apparently unaware of someone in their vicinity were women.

One problem of course, is that for both groups their perception is normal. This causes more problems when people go and attribute motivation and intent that isn't there.

 

[Electric_Andy]

Doesn't really matter if man or woman or otherwise. I get people doing this quite a lot. All you have to do is say "sorry can I just get past" and 99% of people leap out of the way, apologising profusely as if they were just standing on your privates

 

[mudsticks]

Doesn't really matter if man or woman or otherwise. I get people doing this quite a lot. All you have to do is say "sorry can I just get past" and 99% of people leap out of the way, apologising profusely as if they were just standing on your privates

Exactly.
"Sorry sorry sorry"

Is far more the British way on the whole.
Even if there's not even that much to be 'sorry' for.


I guess it's like most things.

If you barge around like an oaf, being impatient, bad mannered and assuming you always have right of way, and thinking the worst of everyone , that's probably going to be mirrored back to you..

 

[KnittyNorah]

Doesn't really matter if man or woman or otherwise. I get people doing this quite a lot. All you have to do is say "sorry can I just get past" and 99% of people leap out of the way, apologising profusely as if they were just standing on your privates

This is what I find, too.

The only time it really doesn't work at all well is in the Aldi I like to use, which is (unfortunately for me) close to the university, and at the beginning of the academic year it is especially bad. Students who've never done their own shopping before, students who have apparently never been in a supermarket before, students arguing with each other about which tin of beans to get, students standing in the middle of the aisle looking vacantly into outer space ...

A polite 'excuse me can I get past' is ignored; a louder 'excuse ME, I NEED to GET THROUGH' is attempted, with a few gentle bumps of the trolley to make my point. If that doesn't work (as it didn't a week ago; a lady with a toddler in her trolley was also ignored) then I caught the eye of the lady with the toddler and said 'OY! We're coming through' ... the lady with the toddler followed me closely and we bulldozed our way through the group of students blocking the aisle ...
Once we were through we looked at each other and laughed and looked at the group of students and laughed again, they all looked so very puzzled, wondering what had just hit them ... Then we saw the deputy manager of the store and he was laughing too. He said 'Good work ladies!'

 

[Andy in Germany]

Doesn't really matter if man or woman or otherwise. I get people doing this quite a lot. All you have to do is say "sorry can I just get past" and 99% of people leap out of the way, apologising profusely as if they were just standing on your privates

I'm not saying it does, but I think it's helpful if we realise that things that for me are self evident, aren't always self evident for other people, it helps us to have more grace in our dealings if we realise people aren't being selfish, they just see the world differently.

And conversely, we probably have similar, ahem, blind spots.