The rudeness of some people
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Dayvo
just passin' through
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- 59° 50′ 5.55″ N, 10° 47′ 41.89″ E
There is only one answer!
It ain't the first one!
I'd tell her to fukk off, TBH!
It ain't the first one!
I'd tell her to fukk off, TBH!
Arch
Married to Night Train
- Location
- Salford, UK
She does sound like a bit of a mare. How did you pick the 12 boys to start with? Was little Jonny a member before, and is now 'excluded'? If not, then fair enough on your behalf. If he was a member and hasn't made the cut, then maybe she's got a point, albeit not made well....
If he didn't make the cut because he's a little bastard, then it's up to you how you break it to her....
If he didn't make the cut because he's a little bastard, then it's up to you how you break it to her....
go for b
i help out at a surf club and every week parents dump their kids on us then bugger off to the local pub on the beech then complain like hell when we say the kids cant go in the sea because there is not enough water cover . just th eother week there was about 10 parents stood waiting to pick up their brats and i asked if we could have some help to tidy up ,there was a bang and a flash of smoke and they had all disappeared . get used to that it happens alot . good luck and hope it goes well for you
i help out at a surf club and every week parents dump their kids on us then bugger off to the local pub on the beech then complain like hell when we say the kids cant go in the sea because there is not enough water cover . just th eother week there was about 10 parents stood waiting to pick up their brats and i asked if we could have some help to tidy up ,there was a bang and a flash of smoke and they had all disappeared . get used to that it happens alot . good luck and hope it goes well for you
Iain p
Active Member
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- Sunny Slaithwaite
Rather you than me 
. As for what to tell her... Just explain the situation that you want to start small and that once you fell more confident you will contact her. You could also mention that if she or any other wish to help then this would happen sooner rather than later.
. As for what to tell her... Just explain the situation that you want to start small and that once you fell more confident you will contact her. You could also mention that if she or any other wish to help then this would happen sooner rather than later.
Stig-OT-Dump
Guru
- Location
- Glasgow's sunny southside
Maybe give her a form to fill out and say her child will be on the waiting list (until he's old enough for scouts).
Dayvo
just passin' through
- Location
- 59° 50′ 5.55″ N, 10° 47′ 41.89″ E
Tell her that when SHE has grown up enough, her son will be considered!
Fukk off is still my favoured option!
Headgardener
Armchair Cyclist
Some where between the two I would think Maggot. Reply politly explaining that at the moment you are just getting going and only intend to start with 12 boys, which you have approached I assume, to see how it goes. When and if things pick up then more boys can join but only if the leaders can cope as that will be the limiting factor. All the best. HG. Leiutenant, 1st Hythe Company, the Boy's Brigade.
Flying_Monkey
Recyclist
- Location
- Odawa
This is Maggot, right? Complaining about other people being rude? And they said irony was dead... 
vernon
Harder than Ronnie Pickering
- Location
- Meanwood, Leeds
A simple and semi-factual response should keep her at bay.
Point out that while you are gaining confidence you are unwilling to accommodate more than twelve scouts. Inform her that her son is tenth in a short waiting list of twenty. Accelerated admission to the troupe could be gained by her offering assistance on a regular basis.
You have my admiration and respect for volunteering to run a Scout group. It's not easy. My three kids all attended cubs and brownies and my wife volunteered to help with the brownies because they were understaffed. Despite being an experienced teacher in an inner city all girls school for twenty five years, she found the experience draining but continued so that our daughter could progress through to guides. Said daughter did progress through to guides for three weeks then gave it up. Wife wanted to throttle daughter.
Point out that while you are gaining confidence you are unwilling to accommodate more than twelve scouts. Inform her that her son is tenth in a short waiting list of twenty. Accelerated admission to the troupe could be gained by her offering assistance on a regular basis.
You have my admiration and respect for volunteering to run a Scout group. It's not easy. My three kids all attended cubs and brownies and my wife volunteered to help with the brownies because they were understaffed. Despite being an experienced teacher in an inner city all girls school for twenty five years, she found the experience draining but continued so that our daughter could progress through to guides. Said daughter did progress through to guides for three weeks then gave it up. Wife wanted to throttle daughter.
Dayvo
just passin' through
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- 59° 50′ 5.55″ N, 10° 47′ 41.89″ E
This is Maggot, right? Complaining about other people being rude? And they said irony was dead...
Sorry, Maggot, but I'm just laughing at FM's best-ever post!
Andy in Sig
Vice President in Exile
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- Sigmaringen, Germany
I'd go for an alternative to b. which worked for me with a rude person (albeit in wholly different circumstances).
Something along the lines of: "I'm terribly sorry but who are you?"
Something along the lines of: "I'm terribly sorry but who are you?"
Cush
Veteran
- Location
- North Cumbria but still a Geordie
Say nowt; By sending in this posting youve all ready let her get under your skin, which means she's won and it's the kids that will suffer.
Ticktockmy
Guru
- Location
- Crawley, West Sussex
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I have recently volunteered, thats volunteered, to run the local Scout group which shut due to no leader. I made it clear, we would start with 12 boys, and build it up as our confidence grew. That does seem reasonable doesn't it? I am not being outrageous there am I? Tell me if I am.
I have just had an email from a mother, including the line "I have just found out through another mum that it's restarted, which is shocking, I should have been told. What night is it on now? I need to know so I can send [him] along"
So, should I reply
a) I am very sorry, my mistake please send little Johnny along and I do apologise
b) Who the bollocking hell are you talking to? I volunteer to do this because no-one else stepped up, including you or your husband, you dragon faced old-witch. You can send him along when I say you can send him along, I'm not your unpaid babysitter.
This could be the shortest tenure as Scout leader in Scouting history
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I hope you are not trying to run the troop by yourself, whilst it is great fun when all it running ok, when things go wrong, Ie if little jonny has a accident through his own fault, you really need to have another adult there with you all the time to cover your arse.
I had many years as a Scoutmaster, Scout leader and at District level.
Parents can be nasty orrible and dangerous people, I have known them accuce Scout leaders of abuse against there children because they had not been selected for a project, when it was just a concieved complaint to get there own back.
In another case a parent made a complaint against the scouter team as a whole, the net result was the troop closed because all the accused leaders said enough is enough.
This parent sounds like one of those who would try to make trouble, so watch your back.
Anyway, Scouting is fun. and very satisfying and well worth doing, have you thought of looking at Scout Network or Scout active surport within your district for help and advice in running the troop
I have recently volunteered, thats volunteered, to run the local Scout group which shut due to no leader. I made it clear, we would start with 12 boys, and build it up as our confidence grew. That does seem reasonable doesn't it? I am not being outrageous there am I? Tell me if I am.
I have just had an email from a mother, including the line "I have just found out through another mum that it's restarted, which is shocking, I should have been told. What night is it on now? I need to know so I can send [him] along"
So, should I reply
a) I am very sorry, my mistake please send little Johnny along and I do apologise
b) Who the bollocking hell are you talking to? I volunteer to do this because no-one else stepped up, including you or your husband, you dragon faced old-witch. You can send him along when I say you can send him along, I'm not your unpaid babysitter.
This could be the shortest tenure as Scout leader in Scouting history
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I hope you are not trying to run the troop by yourself, whilst it is great fun when all it running ok, when things go wrong, Ie if little jonny has a accident through his own fault, you really need to have another adult there with you all the time to cover your arse.
I had many years as a Scoutmaster, Scout leader and at District level.
Parents can be nasty orrible and dangerous people, I have known them accuce Scout leaders of abuse against there children because they had not been selected for a project, when it was just a concieved complaint to get there own back.
In another case a parent made a complaint against the scouter team as a whole, the net result was the troop closed because all the accused leaders said enough is enough.
This parent sounds like one of those who would try to make trouble, so watch your back.
Anyway, Scouting is fun. and very satisfying and well worth doing, have you thought of looking at Scout Network or Scout active surport within your district for help and advice in running the troop
