The Retirement Thread

[Dirk]

It was fish Friday a few days ago at this rate it'll soon be christmas

Time flies when you're having fun!

 

[monkers]

Good afternoon all ... bit late clocking in today.

Gosh I did feel rough yesterday afternoon. I think I already had a bit of a cold which probably made matters worse, but I do think the jab was behind it. Despite that I would do that again; I will go for the second jab even if it means a repeat, and I'm a 'wuss' (as I'm sometime reminded indoors).

I slept soundly but I had crashed on the sofa, I got left there, but made my way to bed after I woke at 5. To my utter disgust Mr Ted had been stolen from me, and I subsequently discovered him being held hostage in a tight headlock. I was not best pleased!

We actually got out for a bimble together today. I wasn't aching or hurting but I couldn't find much in the way of power - Danni could have left me for dead with ease today. We managed about 14 miles only. I had a few more miles available but wasn't sorry to be home either.

 

[BoldonLad]

It's horrible and drags you down a bit. Didn't help that I had a brother that happily sat back and left me to get on with it. Even although he was working, not a single offer of help at weekends, evenings, holidays......nothing. I don't speak to him now

The "dependant relative/parent" seems to be a "problem" no matter the family size. I am one of three, one of whom lives 300. miles away, and, most of "looking after" my late mother, fell to me. Mrs @BoldonLad is one of ten, and there was a noticeable absence of "volunteers" when her mother, then her brother needed help.

 

[welsh dragon]

Just watched a film on Netflix based on the Iranian Embassy seige. I can't believe it happened 40 years ago.

 

[derrick]

Well it's another lunch break for me, just need a cup of tea to wash the sandwich down, just waiting for kettle to boil.

 

[numbnuts]

The machine has done the washing

 

[derrick]

The "dependant relative/parent" seems to be a "problem" no matter the family size. I am one of three, one of whom lives 300. miles away, and, most of "looking after" my late mother, fell to me. Mrs @BoldonLad is one of ten, and there was a noticeable absence of "volunteers" when her mother, then her brother needed help.

I have a sister who does not stop moaning about looking after her mum, My parents moved away from London 30 odd years ago, we tried to talk them out of it, but they went ahead anyway, Shortly after my sister followed them to where they went, skived and pounced of them for years her kids where the same, they had a lot of stuff from my parents, Now my mum is on her own and all my sister does is slag the rest of the family off, we are all a long way from mum, we all see her when we can, For my sister it's pay back time, but she don't like it, There is no love lost between the rest of the family and my sister.

 

[derrick]

On a lighter note, i managed to pick up a e bike motor controller and battery today, Have not got a clue what i am going to do with it yet, But what ever it turns into the kids in the street will enjoy it.

 

[BoldonLad]

I have a sister who does not stop moaning about looking after her mum, My parents moved away from London 30 odd years ago, we tried to talk them out of it, but they went ahead anyway, Shortly after my sister followed them to where they went, skived and pounced of them for years her kids where the same, they had a lot of stuff from my parents, Now my mum is on her own and all my sister does is slag the rest of the family off, we are all a long way from mum, we all see her when we can, For my sister it's pay back time, but she don't like it, There is no love lost between the rest of the family and my sister.

In my example, parents never moved away, myself and one brother lived "local", in Mrs @BoldonLad's case, parents never moved away, of the ten children, 8 lived "local", one about 100 miles away, one emigrated (Australia). Parents are all "late" parents now, and, there were no "spoils" to divide. Mrs @BoldonLad has a brother, who requires a degree of "care", Mrs @BoldonLad used to do it, but, she suffered a TIA about 4 years ago, and, can no longer cope with it. There was no rush to volunteer from the six other "possibles", so, I see to to it. It does sometimes present problems, since I am "only" an in-law, but, to me, it is not worth falling out over. I do, however, have my opinion on the subject.

 

[oldwheels]

On a lighter note, i managed to pick up a e bike motor controller and battery today, Have not got a clue what i am going to do with it yet, But what ever it turns into the kids in the street will enjoy it.

A kid here had a traditional looking bogie but somebody put a motor on it and he was often seen out with his pals. I think he was disabled in some way and could not walk well so it got him out and the rest of the gang looked after him. Not seen him around for a while so he may have grown out of it but in any case a tourist would have mashed him last summer anyway.

 

[12boy]

On the familial thing...
I live about 700 miles from my Dad and although I spent my vacation time with him it was only for a week or so, several times a year. My sister did the rest and it was considerable. She and I never really lived together as my Dad married her Mom when I was 7 and she 13, and we went to boarding school for a while. We saw each other but only occasionally as I moved away avter college.
When my Dad died after Mom, she took care of the inheritance issues and bent overbackwards to be totally honest and fair. Unlike in many families his death and how she handled it made us closer and to this day I would do anything for her. Her integrity and kindness to my Dad will never be forgotten. There is a lot of crazy and disfunction in our families but only love and respect between my sister and her husband and my wife and me. It could have been so different.
Back to the chiro today as yesterday's digging out finally trashed my back. The thing about the back is I am afraid to do much as I don't want to make it worse. By the time this snow melts in the next couple days I will be my normal obnoxious self.
Be well and safe...
By the way, OldWheels, nice job on the shower arrangement.

 

[oldwheels]

Got out early for a trike run this morning but still cold as the sun was not fully out.
Campervan in a usual spot and much more traffic than usual. I know the regular users of this road and I reckon about 50% were probably tourist and parts of the road are getting dangerous for me.
This really makes me angry as I am not supposed to leave our level 3 area to go to Oban which is level 4 but tourists seem to think that rules do not apply to them and they can come here from higher levels with no bar if they fancy and nobody seems able to stop them.
I dread the summer when I will be virtually housebound again due to tourists. None of them give a toot about those who live in such areas all year. I would leave my home of the last 50 years but not sure I could handle a move now.

 

[oldwheels]

On the familial thing...
I live about 700 miles from my Dad and although I spent my vacation time with him it was only for a week or so, several times a year. My sister did the rest and it was considerable. She and I never really lived together as my Dad married her Mom when I was 7 and she 13, and we went to boarding school for a while. We saw each other but only occasionally as I moved away avter college.
When my Dad died after Mom, she took care of the inheritance issues and bent overbackwards to be totally honest and fair. Unlike in many families his death and how she handled it made us closer and to this day I would do anything for her. Her integrity and kindness to my Dad will never be forgotten. There is a lot of crazy and disfunction in our families but only love and respect between my sister and her husband and my wife and me. It could have been so different.
Back to the chiro today as yesterday's digging out finally trashed my back. The thing about the back is I am afraid to do much as I don't want to make it worse. By the time this snow melts in the next couple days I will be my normal obnoxious self.
Be well and safe...
By the way, OldWheels, nice job on the shower arrangement.

I did not do any of the actual work and it required a lot of planning to conform to the regulations. Even something as mundane as a toilet has to be a minimum distance from any wall or obstruction. The shower also had a minimum size allowed and we just managed it with only a little creative measuring.

 

[rustybolts]

It looked at me. It sat in that washing basket, with a smirk and looked at me

I am more in the Mo camp when it comes to housework I could go out and run or ride a bike for ages but the thought of doing a lot of housework exhausts me. Luckily her indoors gives me a metaphorical boot in de hole from time to time and guilt makes me catch up. Lovel y photos Mo !👍

 

[classic33]

Just watched a film on Netflix based on the Iranian Embassy seige. I can't believe it happened 40 years ago.

Still recall when the SAS went in, they cut the scheduled programs to go live, then continued it on the news.

John Wayne had just gone down the bank into the river to the old house where they were holding out. Then they cut to the live broadcast. Never did see the end of it.

Two of us were missing at school that day and the next, the other reappeared on the Wednesday. And thus began a bizarre series of events that followed us both over the next two years.