The Retirement Thread

[Deleted member 1258]

Sorry to hear this. It is quite complicated at first glance. Can only give a couple bits of advice.

1) Stay in close contact with social services, if you feel your lady wife needs a carer at bed time fight for it. Social workers in my experience are good caring people but they work in a sector that’s very underfunded. If you say you can do things for your wife they will let you. There is no point making yourself ill trying to do too much , it will not help you or your wife.

2) Get all the help and information you can now , don’t wait . First thing to do is contact Citizen Advice they can help with finding your way though the maze of forms and what you are intitled too ( I cannot speak to highly of the Coventry branch in helping me with a problem with my dad a few years ago ) Secondly phone our local Age Uk service to see what advice they can give . Do these things as soon as you can as these organisations are always busy and working under Covid doesn’t help.
Another useful organisation to try is the CarersTrust ( heart of england ) . I haven’t used them but was given their information by social services. They also provide help and support to carers, ie, helping you cope, provide a listening ear to talk you though your and your wife’s problems , up to date info on local services , info on money and benefits , aids and adaptions she might need etc.

Hope this helps and I haven’t just told you things you all ready know.

These people seem good as well, I'm on their E-Mail list.

https://www.independentage.org/get-...NE&utm_term=0_7685579e01-44a46aecb5-158452241

 

[Juan Kog]

Lol

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This could explain why some forum members suddenly disappear, no personal crisis not a flounce they have forgotten there pass word or even there forum name .

 

[Deleted member 1258]

My pleasure my friend. Re non means tested benefits, the only other thing I know that might be useful is that Attendance allowance is for people aged 65 and over and PIP is for people aged 16 to 64.

Good luck with it all and try not to get too stressed over it all , things tend to happen at their own pace but do fall into place in the end .😀

That explains why my Good lady's DLA has never been replaced by PIP.

 

[classic33]

Things are coming to a head with MrsD.
I managed to get her into the bath (no way she can stand for a shower)......then she couldn't get out. I was on the verge of 999 then fortunately her sister came round and we managed to get her out and into bed.
Phoned 111.
Waiting for the Doctor now for a home visit.
Myself, I see hospital looming.

Hopefully it's a temporary set back on previous days. But the best o'luck to both of you.

 

[welsh dragon]

Things are coming to a head with MrsD.
I managed to get her into the bath (no way she can stand for a shower)......then she couldn't get out. I was on the verge of 999 then fortunately her sister came round and we managed to get her out and into bed.
Phoned 111.
Waiting for the Doctor now for a home visit.
Myself, I see hospital looming.

I hope Mrs D is OK Dave.

 

[Deleted member 1258]

Things are coming to a head with MrsD.
I managed to get her into the bath (no way she can stand for a shower)......then she couldn't get out. I was on the verge of 999 then fortunately her sister came round and we managed to get her out and into bed.
Phoned 111.
Waiting for the Doctor now for a home visit.
Myself, I see hospital looming.

If you're in a position where MrsD has fallen and can't get back up don't hesitate on getting an ambulance out, they're very good at dealing with those situations.

 

[Deleted member 1258]

Things are coming to a head with MrsD.
I managed to get her into the bath (no way she can stand for a shower)......then she couldn't get out. I was on the verge of 999 then fortunately her sister came round and we managed to get her out and into bed.
Phoned 111.
Waiting for the Doctor now for a home visit.
Myself, I see hospital looming.

My best wishes that they get things sorted for MrsD

 

[gavroche]

Blue letter from NHS this morning with an appointment for the jab on Saturday 20th. Pain in the arse as it’s in Perth rather than local.

It will give your car a chance to do some mileage and top up the battery.

 

[Deleted member 1258]

Working my way through a bag of liquorice allsorts this afternoon and the bags full of these little black things, looks like Berty Bassetts taken a dump in my bag of sweets, I haven't a clue what they are and they taste vile.

 

[12boy]

It was either -10C or -17C at 7 this am depending. on where you look. But sunny with a high of -1. Woke up today to no power. When there is no power there is no heat. It came on about 7:45 so it is warming up in here In an hour or so we will be going to the hospital for Mrs 12's lung drain. At least she can have a hot shower before hopping in the car. Good to be reminded of all the things that don't work when there is an outage. Kind of at loose ends today, as it too snowy to do much outside, although a trudge in the snow is possible. My bike shed isn't heated so I don't feel like bike maintenance much. If you look at my picture yiu can see the little path through the snow I made for the old dog. Apparently there is a real possibility the weekend storm we expect can dump as much as 2 feet of snow, which is great for the snow pack and general moisture but not so good for getting around. I am glad I haven't put up my hoophouses yet as even this snow would have probably trashed them.
Daves, I hope your wives will get better....perhaps the Doc visit will tell you something , Dave 7, and you get your home health care worked out DaveR. Uncertainty is so hard to deal with.
Be well and safe.

 

[12boy]

Forgot my pics. One is the front yard and the other the deck.

 

[Dave7]

Latest
Paramedics are on the way. Should be here within the hour.
At least something is happening.

 

[numbnuts]

Things are coming to a head with MrsD.
I managed to get her into the bath (no way she can stand for a shower)......then she couldn't get out. I was on the verge of 999 then fortunately her sister came round and we managed to get her out and into bed.
Phoned 111.
Waiting for the Doctor now for a home visit.
Myself, I see hospital looming.

Bugger - why do we get old take care Dave

 

[Juan Kog]

Blue letter from NHS this morning with an appointment for the jab on Saturday 20th. Pain in the arse

In England the vaccination is given in the upper arm , Mo still time to order one of those inflatable pressure relief cushions .

 

[welsh dragon]

In England the vaccination is given in the upper arm , Mo still time to order one of those inflatable pressure relief cushions .

One of those donut things