Well, that seems to be good news, in any case.
There's a guy who seems to be trying a lot to keep you within the organisation. I do hope that idea is settling in for you!
the Boss came and offered me an extension to December.
Help a confuddled guy out. Is that on your usual rate of pay, or the recently introduced lower rate?
If it's the usual, it seems a no-brainer to me - a chance to prepare (better) for your departure while optimistically waiting to see see if you will leave or not.
If it's the lower then I'd be putting pressure on him to raise it. He's asking you to turn down other opportunities, he should be putting his money where his mouth is.
There's no need for this to be an all-or-nothing situation. No reason why you can't return at some future date when they finally get their act together.
It would be totally reasonable to lay down specific benchmarks in terms of timing with your boss. Ask for, or figure out what the steps are in the process, ask for, or estimate the timing of each one and if you stay working there monitor them. If progress is on schedule all is good. If not, plan B is activated.
Specifically, would you be in your new workshop by December?
The other part is that I'd be the Flying Squad in the event of a staff shortage.
Maybe it's my confusion but is that in your present store or the new one which is some distance from where you live?
I'd be very focused on this, on what it involves and how often it would take me from my "core" job.
I get that variety is the spice of life and that you have seemed to enjoy your participation elsewhere but when the chips are down and fate delivers clients that are more demanding of attention than others what happens?
With your increased independence comes increased responsibility - and perhaps less visibility.
Again, in discussion with the boss I'd be looking to hammer out these things. Especially in terms of the maximum number of occasions this role would be required.
You trust your boss and they seem very keen to keep you.
What would happen if your boss moved on?
he shouldn't have given me such a good reference if he didn't want that...
Maybe I'm reading it wrong, but the reference is about you. It's
you that's getting the interviews, not the reference. I don't think it's a work of fiction, is it?
Trivial negative:
- Having got used to the idea of leaving, I like the jobs I'm being interviewed for, and their locations. One would be another possible step to the "long term goal".
I'm slightly bemused that this is labelled a "trivial negative".
You've had a shock, poked your head out into the world of job hunting, discovered that it's not barren or filled with dangerous creatures. In fact, there's quite a few friendly folk who want you and there's at least one "yellow brick road" that might just bring you to where you want to go. And that's pretty much on a first glance. There may well be more that a bit of time or exploration will reveal.
i understand why it's on the negative side of the equation (not being a mathematician I'd give it a category all of its own
) but I wouldn't consider it trivial.
Being "in demand" is a fact, not an illusion created by some magic writing. A fact is a fact, but the feelings and strength generated by that fact shouldn't be downplayed. We all need, every now and then, to tap into those feelings.
In your shoes, whatever happens,
I would be feeding ravenously on this.
Best of luck to you and I do hope that despite the stress, confusion and probably some worry that a little part of you is actually enjoying the process. Even climbing up the steepest of hills in the worst conditions there's
something to be enjoyed - we just have to keep our eyes open.