Dogtrousers
Kilometre nibbler
+1I'm not a competitive cyclist by any stretch of the imagination. If you are a recreational rider, I really wouldn't worry about "cross-chaining" at all. My rule of thumb is that if the chain sounds OK, it's probably quite happy. If it chatters a bit, put it somewhere else where it sounds happier. I'm not a big believer in all that chain wear stuff.
You can over-think these things. I think of cross chaining as being a bit like having your flies undone. It's not something that you go out to do, and if you notice, you rectify the situation. Habit makes sure it doesn't happen too often.
If you're riding a double, then use the little ring for lowish gears and the big ring for high-ish gears. Change when the terrain/situation demands. That will generally keep you from cross-chaining. Life's too short to be constantly looking back at your cassette and counting sprockets.
A little bit of cross-chaining on a double now and then isn't going to wreck your bike. Riding for long distances cross chained will do it no good, but you'd have to actively go out and decide to do that to have any real effect.