I think im done with my club

[NorthernSky]

i'm looking to join a local club but they don't have a Sat run that i know of, only a Sunday run. i've been riding on my own on Saturdays for years so having to go out on a sunday is a problem for me. i think i'm going to have to go on the sunday runs until i get to know people who maybe go out on a sat, but maybe by that stage i'll be used to sunday runs 😩 😁

 

[Sharky]

My club too only has an organised sunday club run. After a 10-15 year stretch of being the runs leader, retirement, broken bones and family commitments has stopped my involvement in Sunday club runs. But I am on the WhatsApp group for the club and often members will post to say they can't make the sunday run, but going out on another day, asking for riders to accompany them.

So I would say join the club, try a few sunday rides and get involved. And invite others to join you on different days of the week.

 

[cyberknight]

Another club about 6 miles away is doable but i have to be there for 8 am which is fairly early , definitely no good in winter as its too much of a risk.I know one of the people i used to ride with has ridden with them at least a couple of weeks but he is not responding to any messages asking how the club is which i find damn rude as i have lost count the times i have helped him out.

 

[mjr]

[...] but he is not responding to any messages asking how the club is which i find damn rude as i have lost count the times i have helped him out.

Maybe the tech is broken somewhere along the line. Maybe life has suddenly happened. Doesn't seem great to assume rudeness quite so readily.

 

[All uphill]

I'm not a group person, so not the best person to advise, but have you thought of gently starting your own rides with a friend and see who wants to join you?

 

[cyberknight]

Maybe the tech is broken somewhere along the line. Maybe life has suddenly happened. Doesn't seem great to assume rudeness quite so readily.

i didnt , he did respond to the post when I saw his 1st ride then the second ride it shows as read and as the club uses instagram to plan rides i must assume his tech is fine.This guy i remember starting at i gave time and equipment willingly over the years but as soon as i didnt have anything to offer he pretty much cut me off .
He then started saying he cant ride sunday due to his job and rode saturdays instead , fair enough then hes riding sundays and not saturdays

 

[davidphilips]

Just seen your post cyberknight, seems that the fault is with your ex club mate, can be very hurtful when someone you have helped out and considered a friend turns there back on you but there loss and now you know what they are really like, perhaps even if its hurtful you are actually the better off without them.
Best of luck finding some good cycling buddies.

 

[cyberknight]

Just seen your post cyberknight, seems that the fault is with your ex club mate, can be very hurtful when someone you have helped out and considered a friend turns there back on you but there loss and now you know what they are really like, perhaps even if its hurtful you are actually the better off without them.
Best of luck finding some good cycling buddies.

turned up at the club that meets further away and he was there, he didnt look pleased to see me and was very off hand to the point of nasty " i dont have time to answer texts , i have a life " then goes on about what a great whats app group this club has and how there is a lot of posts hes involved in .
He did mellow by the cake stop and even invited back to his house for a cuppa so i think he might have mellowed .

 

[Kingfisher101]

What did you say to him initially? Did you ask him why he hadn't returned you texts? If so people don't like being called out. I'd just forget him and move on from now on.
I wouldn't have anyone being that offhand with me etc. I'd just walk away and leave them to it.
I'm sure there's nicer, kinder people to try to befriend/chat to. He sounds horrible and if you spend time with nasty, horrible people then it brings you down.

 

[Ming the Merciless]

then goes on about what a great whats app group this club has and how there is a lot of posts hes involved in

But how oh how does he find the time? He has a life!

 

[simongt]

Tried group rides a few times, but just doesn't suit me.
I'm in the habit of choosing a destination and how I get there I decide as I go in my own time at my own speed, stopping as and where the fancy takes me.
Not a great style for groups - !

 

[cyberknight]

gave them another shot , no one wanted a sunday ride and the peaks 100 ride i lead most years got cancelled without even asking me if i wanted to lead or not .
I am a bit of a piggy in the middle as i have a couple of riders i know who have similar feelings to me but their asking me questions which i have passed on .Everyone thinks they are right and im even more confused .

 

[Flick of the Elbow]

My fitness allows me to keep up with a slow clubrun but not my throat and hearing. I get back from a clubrun completely hoarse having spent the ride trying to make conversation with the rider next to me. This entails me having to speak at a volume that my throat can’t maintain and usually only making out a fraction of the reply. Given that socialising is for me the main point of going out on a clubrun then its not really achieving its purpose. It’s sad that I’m having to give it up when the rest of me will still allow it.

 

[derrick]

My fitness allows me to keep up with a slow clubrun but not my throat and hearing. I get back from a clubrun completely hoarse having spent the ride trying to make conversation with the rider next to me. This entails me having to speak at a volume that my throat can’t maintain and usually only making out a fraction of the reply. Given that socialising is for me the main point of going out on a clubrun then its not really achieving its purpose. It’s sad that I’m having to give it up when the rest of me will still allow it.

People i ride with know i am partially deaf, the socialising is done in the pub at the end of the ride. when it's a quiet road and no wind noise freinds will chat a bit. But i do only cycle with mates.

 

[Gunk]

Tried group rides a few times, but just doesn't suit me.
I'm in the habit of choosing a destination and how I get there I decide as I go in my own time at my own speed, stopping as and where the fancy takes me.
Not a great style for groups - !

Sounds like me, I used to ride with a club back in my teens when my brother and I were fairly competitive. These days I just try and embrace the joy and freedom of cycling. I'm starting to get back in to touring, my son and I are going to plan a small trip to dip our toe back in to it.

I also hate motorcycling in a group, prefer to make my own way there and meet up, rather than ride in any organised fashion. I have had a lifetime of not wanting to follow rules!