I bet I'm not the only one..

[Sandra6]

Does she expect you to have lunch with her every day? I would get a bit sick of that tbh.
My husband hates his job, he's full time, I work 3 hours a day and sometimes it grates with him that I get to go out and cycle when I please of a morning, so once a week I take him for lunch.
He tends to want to go out after work, to the gym or on the bike, and I moan at him because I have to sort tea out for the kids and he swans off by himself. Once a week he takes me out for a drink.
Tell your girlfriend there are people more hard done by than her.

 

[Col5632]

Does she expect you to have lunch with her every day? I would get a bit sick of that tbh.
My husband hates his job, he's full time, I work 3 hours a day and sometimes it grates with him that I get to go out and cycle when I please of a morning, so once a week I take him for lunch.
He tends to want to go out after work, to the gym or on the bike, and I moan at him because I have to sort tea out for the kids and he swans off by himself. Once a week he takes me out for a drink.
Tell your girlfriend there are people more hard done by than her.

Just on a saturday as she is at college and works part time but saturday is a full day 9-5.515 and her job drives her that mental that she has wanted to leave for ages but doesnt seem to do much about it, dont always enjoy my day but usually got to get through it myself so i dont see why she cant, its only in the last 6 or so months i have started going down on a sat for her lunch and she just expects it every sat now

 

[Friz]

Keep cycling on Saturdays. Just change to a girlfriend with better working hours.

 

[Friz]

And there's a smiley thing to say I may have been joking...

but maybe not...

 

[Col5632]

Keep cycling on Saturdays. Just change to a girlfriend with better working hours.

Its not even every sat its one or two a month max

 

[Sandra6]

Just on a saturday as she is at college and works part time but saturday is a full day 9-5.515 and her job drives her that mental that she has wanted to leave for ages but doesnt seem to do much about it, dont always enjoy my day but usually got to get through it myself so i dont see why she cant, its only in the last 6 or so months i have started going down on a sat for her lunch and she just expects it every sat now

We're creature's of habit us women, do a thing once and we expect it all the time. Like presents on birthdays.
Actually, it's not just women. I made my husband steak on a wednesday once, and ever since he's been disappointed if it isn't steak for tea "We always have steak on a Wednesday"
Can you coincide lunch with her midway through a cycle?!

 

[postman]

One of the most important things in my relationship, when it started back in the last century, was a mutual agreement to be free to do things apart. One was going to the boozer, races and the like with other friends without jealousy. I don't think it covered sleeping with her best friend

You let her do all that ,what a fantastic bloke you are.

 

[Arch]

We're creature's of habit us women, do a thing once and we expect it all the time. Like presents on birthdays.
Actually, it's not just women. I made my husband steak on a wednesday once, and ever since he's been disappointed if it isn't steak for tea "We always have steak on a Wednesday"
Can you coincide lunch with her midway through a cycle?!

I read that and was thinking of a different cycle - like he might decide to skip one particular lunch a month...

The idea of sending her a special message or picture when you're not there to have lunch is a good one. Perhaps suggest some consolation on those weeks - a special meal, or a little present. No, don't suggest it, I mean, just do it, and tell her it's because you know she misses you, and you miss her too.

I suspect if she's grumpy it's because she convinces herself that if you skip lunch, you don't care about her. If she's having a crap time at work, she may have low self esteem, and tend to assume the worst.

You could also point out that the odd ride makes you happier and fitter, and better able to really enjoy the time you are together.

 

[Col5632]

We're creature's of habit us women, do a thing once and we expect it all the time. Like presents on birthdays.
Actually, it's not just women. I made my husband steak on a wednesday once, and ever since he's been disappointed if it isn't steak for tea "We always have steak on a Wednesday"
Can you coincide lunch with her midway through a cycle?!

I cant have lunch and cycle if im on a forum ride, this weekends ride starts at 11 and wont finish till atleast 4.

I read that and was thinking of a different cycle - like he might decide to skip one particular lunch a month...

The idea of sending her a special message or picture when you're not there to have lunch is a good one. Perhaps suggest some consolation on those weeks - a special meal, or a little present. No, don't suggest it, I mean, just do it, and tell her it's because you know she misses you, and you miss her too.

I suspect if she's grumpy it's because she convinces herself that if you skip lunch, you don't care about her. If she's having a crap time at work, she may have low self esteem, and tend to assume the worst.

You could also point out that the odd ride makes you happier and fitter, and better able to really enjoy the time you are together.

Thats some good advice, talked about the situation last night and she said she minds me going as it stops me seeing her on her lunch but she basically cant stop me going and knows how much i enjoy it