I would have not spent the years between 1994 and 2008 working stupid hours. Loving (and hating) the job isn't good enough reason for letting those nearest and dearest to you down.
If I'm honest, I'm ashamed of how much of me got poured in to drawing buildings. It's not much consolation to be told by those I let down that my grandchildren will say 'oh, Grandpa designed this or that'.