How did you meet your significant other?

[DRM]

@oreo_muncher,

One thing that will probably interest you is how random the events are that cause people to meet... and a lifetime of happiness can be created from the most bizarre inconsequential moments when you least expect them....

Had I worked harder on my A-levels I would have gone to Nottingham University [ironic eh?] to study architecture... never to have met Mrs A_T.
Had Mrs A_T worked harder at her Physics A-level she wouldn't have gone to Dundee either...
I was knocked off my motorbike in Leeds two weeks before going up to Dundee, and bought a car with the insurance compensation which took a year to resolve, just before meeting Mrs A_T who would not have ridden pillion on a motorbike because six months earlier she lost a close friend who was killed on a motorbike.
Had Mrs A_T's flat mate not randomly met someone on my course at their first disco, Mrs A_T and I would not have been in the same place to meet for the first time.

Sometimes not achieving what you want, or not doing something that seems important at the time, leads to circumstances which you later realise make your life a whole lot better... and if it doesn't then different things happen which will be just as good and just as exciting!

This exactly, applied to join the RAF, passed tests and was all psyched up to see what trades were available, then was told no recruitment just yet, come back next year may be vacancies in the RAF Fire Service, in the meantime I met Mrs DRM as a friend of a friend at a local disco/night club and didn't bother pursuing the RAF career, still together but would never have met if I had got in to the RAF.
I'm certain it was destiny, and meant to be.

 

[gbb]

I got talking to very nice dairy farmer's wife at a party many years ago, and the amount of work she told me about made me come over all peculiar.

A few years ago I used to have to travel down the A17 through Lincolnshire for work and see people working in the fields, fair play to all those who aren't forced by gangs, but actually choose to do that work.

Late 1970s, early 80s, we used to get gang labour in for the pea processing season. These were normal people, albeit rough around the edges who saw it as quite natural to work the fields, an opportunity to earn cash. The pea processing season was a piece of cake for them.

 

[Deleted member 26715]

That's one of my daughter's favourite songs. She plays it EVERY day, often multiple times!

Has she heard the Heavily Pregnant Brothers version, far better

 

[stephec]

Late 1970s, early 80s, we used to get gang labour in for the pea processing season. These were normal people, albeit rough around the edges who saw it as quite natural to work the fields, an opportunity to earn cash. The pea processing season was a piece of cake for them.

The gangs I meant are the ones who ship people in, tell them that they are working here and living in that house, take their passports away, and then give them a pittance at the end of the week, whilst masquerading as an employment agency.

 

[ClichéGuevara]

In a mirror.

Mac Davis wrote a song about me.


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mYKWch_MNY0

 

[Drago]

The gangs I meant are the ones who ship people in, tell them that they are working here and living in that house, take their passports away, and then give them a pittance at the end of the week, whilst masquerading as an employment agency.

Much like working for the British Army then.

 

[rockyroller]

Are you suggesting you'd be preferring to have three on the go right now??
Sounds exhausting..

no but have you ever had an encounter, then moments later slapped yourself on your head thinking: "oh!" & yes, I expect it would be dodgy to maintain a lifestyle like that. do you guys still use the word "dodgy"

 

[mudsticks]

no but have you ever had an encounter, then moments later slapped yourself on your head thinking: "oh!" & yes, I expect it would be dodgy to maintain a lifestyle like that. do you guys still use the word "dodgy"

Umm I guess, I've had moments of such frisson, during encounters of a close up kind, but I spose I'm not usually after instant results...

Nor after offending anyone.

I spose I think, that if they're at all interested, then another moment might present itself.

If not, I've avoided embarrassment all round.

I don't think it's generally considered good manners to lunge at anyone, in the random hope that it's reciprocated.

I certainly wouldn't like it done to me.

I still use the word dodgy, but then I use all sorts of words not in common usage.

Running three intimate relationships (or even two) without the full consent of all participants involved would constitute 'dodgy' I think - yes..

But If you're not one of us (gender free) guys then what are you doing here..
Just visiting from another planet??

 

[rockyroller]

Just visiting from another planet??

not sure I followed all that. I certainly don't lunge at anyone. not even in my twenties, (40 yrs ago) when I first kissed Wifey. I asked first. I am not gender free, I don't think, from what I can tell, from the latest nomenclature, I am Cisgender

 

[gbb]

The gangs I meant are the ones who ship people in, tell them that they are working here and living in that house, take their passports away, and then give them a pittance at the end of the week, whilst masquerading as an employment agency.

I know, I realised that, just making a connection to your comment re gangs in fields, it used to be quite an innocent way of earning a living for many. That said, Its.difficult to comprehend how society is going backwards, things you could never concieve 30 years ago, modern slavery etc...apparently commonplace in our country.

 

[mudsticks]

not sure I followed all that. I certainly don't lunge at anyone. not even in my twenties, (40 yrs ago) when I first kissed Wifey. I asked first. I am not gender free, I don't think, from what I can tell, from the latest nomenclature, I am Cisgender

oK i was probs being a bit obtuse - it just seemed you were suggesting one should boldy seize opportunities for physicality.

The guys thing was a reference to your 'you guys' as if we were someone else -

'guys' seemingly refers to a notionally gender free bunch of people nowadays - oh lor its getting confusing again

 

[Randomnerd]

@oreo_muncher,

One thing that will probably interest you is how random the events are that cause people to meet... and a lifetime of happiness can be created from the most bizarre inconsequential moments when you least expect them....

Had I worked harder on my A-levels I would have gone to Nottingham University [ironic eh?] to study architecture... never to have met Mrs A_T.
Had Mrs A_T worked harder at her Physics A-level she wouldn't have gone to Dundee either...
I was knocked off my motorbike in Leeds two weeks before going up to Dundee, and bought a car with the insurance compensation which took a year to resolve, just before meeting Mrs A_T who would not have ridden pillion on a motorbike because six months earlier she lost a close friend who was killed on a motorbike.
Had Mrs A_T's flat mate not randomly met someone on my course at their first disco, Mrs A_T and I would not have been in the same place to meet for the first time.

Sometimes not achieving what you want, or not doing something that seems important at the time, leads to circumstances which you later realise make your life a whole lot better... and if it doesn't then different things happen which will be just as good and just as exciting!

Sliding Doors

Another for your film list @oreo_muncher 😏

 

[stephec]

I just wonder around Aldi not knowing what to buy😞 I sometimes talk to my nan on the phone when I'm in Aldi. I find grocery shopping stressful. Last time I purchased too much junk food and didn't make the right decisions

Make a list, and write it in the order of shop layout if you know it. That way you don't have to go backwards and forwards looking for stuff, through the door, grab what you need, and straight home.

 

[Joey Shabadoo]

It was on a blind date arranged by a friend. well, I say "friend" but he wasn't after that. The Roxy Cinema in Leven, I'd arranged to meet her inside. That suited me because she had to pay her own way in and it suited her because the lighting was exceptionally dim and somewhat forgiving. We didn't talk much on the date, partly because I'd paid good money to see the film but partly because she never stopped eating throughout. Her necessarily large coat concealed a surprising amount of food in it's voluminous folds. I was quite impressed with the unspilled pint in her inside pocket. Afterwards I walked her to the taxi rank, stopping for her to sample the kebab shops on the way. I'd made up my mind by now that there wasn't going to be a second date but, being a gentleman, as I helped the taxi driver lift her into the back of the car I said "That was lovely, I'll give you a ring"

Anyway, the Sheriff said that was a legally binding offer and here we are, 25 years later.

 

[Deleted member 26715]

It was on a blind date arranged by a friend. well, I say "friend" but he wasn't after that. The Roxy Cinema in Leven, I'd arranged to meet her inside. That suited me because she had to pay her own way in and it suited her because the lighting was exceptionally dim and somewhat forgiving. We didn't talk much on the date, partly because I'd paid good money to see the film but partly because she never stopped eating throughout. Her necessarily large coat concealed a surprising amount of food in it's voluminous folds. I was quite impressed with the unspilled pint in her inside pocket. Afterwards I walked her to the taxi rank, stopping for her to sample the kebab shops on the way. I'd made up my mind by now that there wasn't going to be a second date but, being a gentleman, as I helped the taxi driver lift her into the back of the car I said "That was lovely, I'll give you a ring"

Anyway, the Sheriff said that was a legally binding offer and here we are, 25 years later.

I don't find that funny in any way but actually find it mildly offensive & I don't even know your wife, strange how perceived humour doesn't work all the time.