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cyberknight
As long as I breathe, I attack.
- Location
- Land of confusion
Yes you can but its frowned upon by the rozzers.
Getting rather annoyed
- Thread starter cyberknight
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rideswithmoobs
Guest
- Location
- North West
Ah if that's how it is then I would bugger off cycling anytime I liked and leave her to it
mustang1
Legendary Member
- Location
- London, UK
I commute ride to work and when I wanted to go out on the weekend, I got the 'but you ride all week's thing that you did. So I just put on my riding gear and went.
Didn't you ever watch Risky Business: sometimes you just gotta say wtf (and do what you gotta do).
Didn't you ever watch Risky Business: sometimes you just gotta say wtf (and do what you gotta do).
r04DiE
300km a week through London on a road bike.
Touchy.
bladesman73
Über Member
dont take no crap, dont let anyone emotionally bully you. my wife goes horse riding when she wants, shes the same with me about cycling. we have kids but work together as we know that for a relationship to work you both need to work together. being happy together also means you need your own individual interests to be taken care of, by stifling them a partner is being selfish and controlling.
I bet she see 's it different to you. I love doing things to please my wife and when the kids were young I would rather spend time with them if they wanted me to rather than go out on the bike. Because of those times the wife suggests I go out on the bike and she even buys them for me as surprise presents.
It is a shame if after being apart all day she prefers the soaps to being with you.
When did you last buy her flowers.
It is a shame if after being apart all day she prefers the soaps to being with you.
When did you last buy her flowers.
r04DiE
300km a week through London on a road bike.
Yeah, its easy to take each other for granted after a while. Maybe she needs a bit of TLC?
Supersuperleeds
Legendary Member
- Location
- Leicester
If I buy our lass flowers she asks what I have done.
r04DiE
300km a week through London on a road bike.
You should tell her: "...thought of you so, so fondly to the point that I bought you flowers."
Hill Wimp
Fair weathered,fair minded but easily persuaded.
From the female perspective both partners need to have interests. Some will involve being together and some won't . This allows you both to have your own space which IMHO is healthy in a relationship.
Space means happy in my book
Space means happy in my book
Andrew_P
In between here and there
Not sure what is stopping you going out if they are all in bed? If one of the kids gets up they would wake your wife up? I would just do it if I were you if nothing else bring to a head. Of course I don't really know your circumstances. You have made similar posts in the past not being that happy at home etc.
Fancy her failing to recognise that your needs are more important than hers, eh?
r04DiE
300km a week through London on a road bike.
Its funny, I mean you're right in a way there, but since relationships (and human beings) are so complex (especially when you throw kids into the mix), there is surely more to it than just this.
I don't think that he's saying his needs are more important, I think he's feeling neglected, and maybe so is she. I don't think that making assumptions, or judging either party helps. I think that what this guy needs is a bit of support, so the he can then see his wife's side maybe, and make a decision based on that. So let's give them both a bit of support.
EltonFrog
Legendary Member
This is a very sad state of affairs discussing private family affairs on the internet instead of dealing with it at home first, it needs sorting out before it gets any worse.
You two need to sit down and do some serious talking and sort your lives out 'cos it's going to end in tears no mistake.
If you are wanting to ride your bike rather than be with her and the kids and she is wanting to watch TV rather than engage with you and the kids means there is something seriously wrong in your relationship.
On the other hand if it's dead, bury it before it starts to stink.
You two need to sit down and do some serious talking and sort your lives out 'cos it's going to end in tears no mistake.
If you are wanting to ride your bike rather than be with her and the kids and she is wanting to watch TV rather than engage with you and the kids means there is something seriously wrong in your relationship.
On the other hand if it's dead, bury it before it starts to stink.
