Feeling mean spirited...

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Arch

Married to Night Train
Location
Salford, UK
You know how it is, when you have a bit of a grudge or dislike against someone, and then you hear they've got something positive happening, and you feel really pissed off, and then you feel guilty because of that, but you still feel pissed off...

I'm not sure I want to share the details just now, and it's horribly messy anyway, but does this happen to other people? Or is it just me...:biggrin:
 

alecstilleyedye

nothing in moderation
Moderator
you're human arch, nowt worse than that…
 
Sounds normal, well normal to me. I occasionally find that people I dislike, for reasons which should seem clear to everyone, suddenly seem to get themselves into envious positions. You wonder how they've done it and frustratingly why what is clear to you is not clear to others. Mostly it irritates, on a few occasions it has angered and saddened me because it diminishes the situation around them but people fail to see this and the people who can, fail to act - probably doesn't make much sense but I know what I mean.
 

ChrisKH

Guru
Location
Essex
Yes, often. You just have to let it wash over you and be a bit Zen.

Altogether now,

[Pinch forefinger and thumb , close eyes] Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm [Pinch forefinger and thumb, close eyes]

Feeling better now?

They'll probably get arrested for Money Laundering next week. Mark my words.
 

dellzeqq

pre-talced and mighty
Location
SW2
Arch. Much as I admire you, there are times when you get just a little nineteenth century on us. Dislike can be a positive thing. A form of recreation. And don't even think of excusing it. Liking and disliking aren't some kind of moral choice - they are, in the finest minds, the exercise of discrimination between the likeable and the unlikeable. If you, Arch, do not like somebody (and it may be me...) then they probably don't deserve to be liked. In fact, Arch, it would be an honour to be disliked by you. Almost as great an honour as being liked by you. Appearing, however briefly, in the panorama of your considerations can, surely, only be exceeded in in the recognition stakes by appearing in the New Year's Honours List. And think of all the scumbags who've made it there.

Give it a go Arch. Sneer sardonically when when you hear the name of the one you dislike. Spit on their photograph, should it appear in the public prints. And, as for their good fortune - hey, what goes around comes around. Karma. You may not realise it, but that promotion/proposal of marriage/lottery win is the worst thing that ever happened to them. The promotion is a bed of nails. Their intended is a psycho. The lottery win is a prelude to a heart attack.

Now - my evil laugh lessons are available on-line....
 

ChrisKH

Guru
Location
Essex
Dellzeqq sounds like the devil incarnate to me.

You'll be saying greed(o) is good next. :whistle:
 
Oh Arch - ditch the guilt for starters. Total waste of time and energy.
Be pissed off that something good happened to this person by all means,(in other words, be human::biggrin:) but don't add to your own misery by getting pissed off with yourself! Thats just mad.

And anyway, despite how good things look on the outside, their life is probably very different beneath the surface. They're probably crying inside. Hopefully....:whistle: (Hell that was evil, even by my low standards..)
 

Blue

Squire
Location
N Ireland
Arch said:
You know how it is, when you have a bit of a grudge or dislike against someone, and then you hear they've got something positive happening, and you feel really pissed off, and then you feel guilty because of that, but you still feel pissed off......:whistle:

I don't feel guilt in such situations; I rise above that.

The fact that you have a problem with another person doesn't mean that they don't deserve the good that has come their way. In such situations I just say "I don't get on with them, but good luck to them". I then forget the issue. Being judgemental and beating oneself lacks any useful purpose.
 
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Arch

Arch

Married to Night Train
Location
Salford, UK
dellzeqq said:
Arch. Much as I admire you, there are times when you get just a little nineteenth century on us. Dislike can be a positive thing. A form of recreation. And don't even think of excusing it. Liking and disliking aren't some kind of moral choice - they are, in the finest minds, the exercise of discrimination between the likeable and the unlikeable. If you, Arch, do not like somebody (and it may be me...) then they probably don't deserve to be liked. In fact, Arch, it would be an honour to be disliked by you. Almost as great an honour as being liked by you. Appearing, however briefly, in the panorama of your considerations can, surely, only be exceeded in in the recognition stakes by appearing in the New Year's Honours List. And think of all the scumbags who've made it there.

Give it a go Arch. Sneer sardonically when when you hear the name of the one you dislike. Spit on their photograph, should it appear in the public prints. And, as for their good fortune - hey, what goes around comes around. Karma. You may not realise it, but that promotion/proposal of marriage/lottery win is the worst thing that ever happened to them. The promotion is a bed of nails. Their intended is a psycho. The lottery win is a prelude to a heart attack.

Now - my evil laugh lessons are available on-line....

Everything people has said has helped, thanks, but this is genius, thank you:biggrin:

It's all a mix of jealousy, resentment and hormones, and I expect a decently large cake will sort me out...
 
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