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Dell has a very good point here... As an adult, having a heated debate with another adult where neither refuses to back down, then one decides to physically attack the other (an all too common occurrence)... they would be considered an idiot and a thug. But at least they're lashing out at somebody their own size when 'words fail'. Doing the same to ones kids does not make a moral and upstanding parent, just another idiot who thinks that the use of a physical attack somehow solves problems.
+1
The (fallible) art/skill/magic of being able to facing somebody who's losing/lost it, and acting to defuse and resolve the situation.
Going back to a previous bit of the discussion - "lack of discipline in the family" just doesn't cut it. "Lack of the magic/skill/art of defusing/de-escalating in too many families, under stress for a whole range of reasons". Hell, it might be accurate, but it ain't catchy, it's a bit of a mouthful, and something tells me it won't hit the text-books, manuals, DfE guidelines, etc, etc.
But sure as popsicles melt in hell, that's a hugely bigger factor in future bad behaviour?