bloody parents…

[alecstilleyedye]

we're sending two of the three kids up to the in laws in edinburgh in a couple of weeks, with us following the next week (me by plane after the wild wales challenge).

anyway, for some reason my parents have agreed to look after my sister's lad (who is the same age as our eldest lad) and he's coming the week we're away (supposedly just to see our lad as they get on very well).

so we're meant to be the bad guys, even though we planned our trip ages ago, and my wife told my mum we were away the last two weeks in august. and guess who failed to realise that the 18th-25th is the second last week in august?

to make matters worse, i then got moaned at for not visiting my sister often enough (a small matter of macclesfield to newcastle upon tyne), and when i pointed out that mrs alecetc works every other weekend, which makes this difficult when factoring in the various kids' activities etc. i nearly put the phone down when she said "well we all have busy lives…", her being retired and my sis not visiting us much either for probably much the same reasons.

mrs alecetc, as you imagine, is delighted; not for the first time wondering aloud when they'll take ours for a week to give her a break.

anyway rant over…

 

[fossyant]

Don't get me started........ my mum's been semi retired for a while and is now retired - oh...don't ask for a little help - busy...... she's still running round after my 28 year old sister and 24 year old brother - sister has own flat, brother just qualified as a dentist and is working full time from next week .....

She's off shopping with sister 1 (married and mid 30's) and sister 2 (28) a fair bit as well.... no other grand kids.

I'm just worried they will soon be a bit too 'old' to enjoy the kids, as it looks as though my two will be the only grand children they will have (out of their own 4 kids), certainly before they get into their 70's.... (sister 1 doesn't want any (neither does husband), sister 2 chasing career and no fella, and brother just getting foot indoor...... SHAME really.....

PS I left home at 25, some 13 years ago....... she likes the grand kids but will baby sit once or twice a year - hence we don't go out.....

I'm fairly independant, and we, like you, are busy at weekends - my wife get's in a gym session on a sat morning, afternoons are busy with general stuff, and the kids wanting to play with friends, sunday is me trying to do a few miles on the road bikes - usually home by 11 though...

We also help out looking after my MIL, who, when fitter helped us with the kids, but has now had a stroke, so it's usually my missus that's round helping whilst I look after the kids..

Despite this, we all get on really well - both families, but there isn't alot of give and take - more give on my side....

Oh, get this, we all live within about a mile !!! FFS !!!

Shall we have this.......... a moan about the family thread...

 

[asterix]

Yeah, families.. Tell me about it.. No.. don't tell me about it..

 

[Stig-OT-Dump]

We were meant to be at my parents' this week for a bit of a holiday, but the stiglet's blood counts weren't up to it. Instead of seeing uncles and aunts, cousin and grandparents, stiglet is getting a blood transfusion and wee stig is stuck at home.

I'd happily give up a gym session, long ride, whatever, to see other family members more often. I'd give up a whole lot more if it meant that we could pick and choose when to go somewhere, and not have to rely on hospital consent.

 

[yenrod]

>macclesfield to newcastle upon tyne

Come on lad - thats only down the road !!!!

 

[yenrod]

>Shall we have this.......... a moan about the family thread...

Where do I start...

My family could argue about the Sun - they have

 

[Rhythm Thief]

My mother is having big problems with her daughter in law at the moment (my brother's wife). Their first son is a year old now, but since Christmas I've been getting regular tearful phone calls from my mum because daughter in law doesn't like her to see her grandson, for reasons none of us can fathom. The four of them went out together the other day and mum, without thinking, picked little James up to show him something ... without first asking permission. Ffs, this is her grandson! She's a nice person, not one of the bloody Kray twins. Anyway, that kicked everything off and now daughter in law is having regular counselling, my brother doesn't quite know what's hit him, my dad and I are at our wits' end trying to sort everything out and my mum is talking about making a clean break from the family and going to live on her own somewhere. Me, I think daughter in law needs a good slap and a serious talking to. Bloody families.

 

[Globalti]

My sympathy. I have a similar problem with my wife and my mother who dislike each other strongly. We have a son aged 9 and my mother complains she never gets to see him. Last time she came up to stay it all turned bad and my wife and I had the worst argument we've had in 11 years of marriage, so we dread my mum's next visit.

Why can't people just live and let live, that's what I want to know.

 

[Sh4rkyBloke]

My parents live

 

[Sh4rkyBloke]

Not sure what happened there...


Anyways, my parents live about 50 miles from us and yet they have seen our youngest (10 months old) less than she has seen her Auntie Helen... who lives in Canada!

Go figure!

 

[Arch]

I think I'm very lucky really, my mum and I and my sister all get on really well. I wouldn't 'expect' any of them to do anything for me (not having kids, babysitting is not an issue) - esp Mum, who at 73 has earned a bit of relaxation (try telling her that!) - although I know they're there if I need them... They (and gorgeous little Oli - one on Saturday!) have certainly made the last year or so much more bearable in places.

I think a lot of people get hyped up over needless stuff, and it takes a serious illness or a death to make then realise what they have - by which time, it might be too late...

 

[dan_bo]

Honestly. Nowt so queer as folk.

 

[Rhythm Thief]

I think I'm very lucky really, my mum and I and my sister all get on really well.

This is why my family are a bit poleaxed by the recent spat. We've always been a very close family, especially my mum and my brother (which is possibly something to do with why mum and daugther in law don't really get on).
Incidentally, I'm not trying to be rude by referring to her as "daughter in law" all the time, I just don't want to give her identity out on the interweb.

 

[Arch]

This is why my family are a bit poleaxed by the recent spat. We've always been a very close family, especially my mum and my brother (which is possibly something to do with why mum and daugther in law don't really get on).
Incidentally, I'm not trying to be rude by referring to her as "daughter in law" all the time, I just don't want to give her identity out on the interweb.

Hmm, maybe D-in-L is afraid of Mum muscling in and pushing her out, and she's over doing the protectiveness? Like dan_bo says, nowt so queer as folk. All she really needs to do is make sure granny toes the party line so to speak, in terms of discipline and giving biscuits and so on, and then let her find her own relationship with the boy.

I guess it sometimes doesn't occur to parents that grandparents were parents too once and therefore do know how to hold a baby, wipe a toddlers nose, and all that...

 

[yenrod]

Hmm, maybe D-in-L is afraid of Mum muscling in and pushing her out, and she's over doing the protectiveness? Like dan_bo says, nowt so queer as folk. All she really needs to do is make sure granny toes the party line so to speak, in terms of discipline and giving biscuits and so on, and then let her find her own relationship with the boy.

I guess it sometimes doesn't occur to parents that grandparents were parents too once and therefore do know how to hold a baby, wipe a toddlers nose, and all that...

Quite true unbelieveable that, that has not occurred to said female with respects !

I know of a situ. whereby similiar to above: Son is not allowed to see or visit his parents with his Son as his partner/wife doesn't get on with his parents.

Godammit - what a bloody joke: talk about a slap need for her.

Strange the way its women who doing all the barny's here...(in families)