What's the point of Dads?

[All uphill]

From other threads it seems part of the answer is to teach us how to fix leaky tyres and to go touring with.

My Dad taught me to expect respect from others and to give respect to them. I'm still practicing...

What is your view?

 

[biggs682]

Dad's are great , my dad is great ok he is a pain at time but when you get to 93 you are allowed to be

He got me interested in Car's , motorsport , cycling and has given me loads of advice over the years along with objections .

I just hope my daughter feels the same about me .

Dad's are good

 

[Archie_tect]

My dad taught me never to assume grown-ups know what they're doing.

 

[Reynard]

My dad was a gaslighting narcissist with an incredibly vindictive streak and a propensity for alcoholism.

I learnt a lot about how NOT to do things.

 

[numbnuts]

My father despised me, I've said this many times, in all the years 27 in all not once did he praise me, when he died I didn't shed one single tear, the only thing he taught me was how to hate.

 

[fossyant]

I like going for a beer with my dad - he's mid 70's now and only just started telling me about all the mischief he got upto on his bike. He had a fixie !

 

[Sharky]

He taught me how to break a chain with a punch and hammer and how to remove a cotter pin. Always thought he would be there, then he was gone - 27yrs ago.

 

[gbb]

My dad was absent for a good chunk of our childhood, RAF duties abroad but he always came back bearing gifts and gave us the best thing a dad could, his time. Time spent in the countryside, walking, exploring, wildlife watching...all the things I then spent doing with my kids, and the vindication it's the best thing you can give is my youngest son who always said he never wanted kids because he couldnt look after himself, let alone a child...he now gladly gives his time and love to his daughter, our grandaughter, in a way that makes me proud.
You dont need money and all the things it brings...you just need to give your time. The bond it brings is hard to beat.

 

[Drago]

My Dad taught me to become a skilled engineer, taught me to drive, taught me basic boxing and self defence moves (the primary school bullying stopped instantly after that), never told me off when I put .303 rounds in the vice in his shed and lit them off with a hammer (my Mum delivered that particular rollicking), has given me some flying lessons, gave me a car, has lent me cash which he never accepted back in full (I did try) and he's a pretty good cook.

 

[Drago]

My father despised me, I've said this many times, in all the years 27 in all not once did he praise me, when he died I didn't shed one single tear, the only thing he taught me was how to hate.

Soooo....im guessing you weren't close then?

 

[winjim]

Mainly sex determination I think.

 

[numbnuts]

Soooo....im guessing you weren't close then?

There were many time when I knew he hated my, but the one I still remember like as it was yesterday, I won the apprentice of the year award and he refused to come, I was the only one who didn't have a parent with them, I was asked “don't you have a dad” I went to the toilets and cried.
I was given two trophy's one for the year and a smaller one to keep.
The following Monday I took both trophy's back to work and told them I didn't want them and the reason why, he kept the larger one and gave the smaller on back to me saying “ you won it, it's yours” I put it in the bin on the way out.

 

[Drago]

Well, we love you!

 

[Smokin Joe]

My old man was 43 when I was born and reaching my teenage years in the sixties the generation gap was so wide we were planets apart. He was of the time when you looked, dressed and thought like your father as soon as you left school. He couldn't understand the music, the fashions or hairstyles so we were never that close. Nevertheless he got me interested in motorcycles and cars, stood behind me when I was about four years old and let me pull the trigger on the pistol he was holding. We lived in Ireland then and gun ownership was not uncommon then, a throw back to the troubles and the civil war.

When I was at boarding school the other kids would get sent copies of the Beano or Dandy, I used to receive Guns & Ammo. He was a bit of a loner and not an affectionate type, but we got on ok. I was 24 when he died, had he lived longer I think I would have got to know him a lot better.

 

[gavroche]

I only saw my dad at week ends as he worked away during the week to earn more money as he was the main bread winner, but he was a good dad. I have 4 brothers and he taught us all to respect everybody, regardless of colour or nationality, despite being tortured himself by the Gestapo in WW2. He was an ex-boxer but wouldn't let any of us take up boxing as he was aware of the dangers. He taught me to drive and was always there if I needed him. We never used the words " I love you " in our house and I still feel a bit uneasy today when I hear them said, but I know he loved us all.
He died in 1999 of enzheimer disease , age 78 and my mother in 2014, age 92 and I still miss them both. My dad's wish was to see the year 2000 but sadly, he passed away 9 months before the end of the year.