Sorry BTFB, but to be honest, I think that you've
a) got an over-pessimistic view of the strength of carbon, and
get an over-optimistic view of the strength of aluminium
Consider that the tube-wall thickness of some alu frametubes is measured in fractions of a millimetre...
Basically you want a strong frame, whatever it's made from.
In a simple world, that might mean a heavier frame rather than a light one...
except that whilst it might be true that a super, super, super-lightweight race frame is less 'strong' because it's designed for a limited amount of use (throw away and replace next year), by skilled riders (who rider 'smoother' than Joe Public), on good roads (races on smooth tarmac, not commutes through potholes) and by skinny little race-whippets,
but the converse may not be true - a heavy frame may just be made out of low-metallurgy gaspipe and be weak as noodles...