What a weird feeling I have at the moment

[Greedo]

My Mum called me earlier and asked if I could meet her for a coffee as she was in town. Which was a bit strange as she never really comes in on her own. So I was a bit on guard as to what she was waiting to tell me.

Anyway, turn up and she's sitting there with my Dad. Instantly I start thinking oh oh! What's happening here!

Turns out they are moving to Sydney next year. I have 2 sisters there at the moment already who have been there for 6 and 8 years.

They said they have been thinking about it for months and have decided to go for it. I have 2 other sisters here and the one older than me is a bit upset but understands them doing it as they love it there. The problem though is the youngest one who is 28 is meeting them later and she is going to take it really really hard.

I've got a lump in my throat at the moment typing this. As much as I feel happy for them and wish them nothing but the best I can't help feeling a sense of abandonment. I feel weird

 

[mickle]

Harsh. Hope it works out G.

 

[Greedo]

Cheers mate. Just feels weird at the moment. My old man is an architect and is retiring soon. I was hoping to bring him in to my business on a part time basis next year and was looking so forward to working with him. Oh well. That's life.

Harsh. Hope it works out G.

 

[Willow]

Wow that must have been such a difficult decision for them, I admire their courage in doing it. It is perfectly understandable that you feel abandoned as you say. Given you were hoping to have your Dad working with you I assume you have a great relationship. Naturally it will hit those of you left behind really hard though I imagine it will also bring you closer together. I suppose in a way had they involved you in the discussions it would have been less of a shock, perhaps it was easier for them to present it as a done deal rather than have their heart strings tugged. You must be feeling quite numb and a bit like you're dreaming. Hope your sis is ok and that your have someone to support you.

 

[buggi]

i can totally relate to this. my sister moved to New Zealand last year. my other sis is moving to Oz in March and now my brother is talking about going. felt like crying when my brother said it too, my own saviour being his common law wife and mother of their child doesn't want to. felt that abandonement feeling too, as i know there is no way i could ever afford to go. think that was about the time i started talking crap on here about feeling lonely a few weeks ago, but you will feel better in a few days.

 

[Mr Pig]

Guess you'll be moving to Sydney soon?

 

[ufkacbln]

I admire them for the way they have dealt with everyone individually, that is so considerate.

It would have been a lot easier to make a group announcement.

 

[fossyant]

Great for holidays...... !!!

 

[BigonaBianchi]

Go with 'em

 

[Danny]

I think you are right to feel strange. My parents decided to move to the US when I was in my early 20's. It was a big change, and has not always been easy for them or me.

Only my mother is alive now, and we generally manage to see each other twice a year - once in the US and once over here. It does mean that when we get together we put some effort into having quality time together, and I probably manage to spend more time with my mother in total than some friends I have whose parents live in the UK.

On the positive side it is now much easier to keep in touch with people on the other side of the world. When my parents first moved international calls were really expensive and the internet didn't exist. Now you can get free calls to the US or Australia bundled with some phone packages, and programmes like Skype (or Sightspeed which I find better) mean you can see each other every day if you want.

 

[Panter]

I can only echo the above, they seem to have gone to great effort to soften the blow and it must've been tough for them.

They have to leave though, you only get one shot at life and it's important to get it right even if that means making painfull decisions.

As Fossyant though think of the holidays and how precious that time together would be.

Keep well,

 

[Greedo]

Thanks for all the kind words guys. I'm fine now. Was just a bit shocked at the time of the post. If I had waited a day I probably wouldn't have bothered posting about it.

Just told my Dad he was a $hite architect anyway and with 2nd thoughts didn't want him working with me

They're talking about June next year and they are out there in Jan/Feb for a holiday. A lot can happen in that time and we'll see what's around the corner. A lot can happen in that time. Or they could just change their minds. Doubt it though!