It's also worth having a good look at the frame - especially the seat and chain stays as well as the areas around the bottom bracket and where the top tube is welded to the seat tube to make sure there are not any cracks in the frame.
That was what lead to my question:
The frame tube below, left is bottom bracket zone, right goes to the dropout, drivetrain side, with wheel location thus upwards. It is cracked to the inside, being the direction the tube goes when tensioning the wheels mount, that 5 mm.
It might be that you just need to add a spacer to your rear hub because it has a smaller OLD on account of being designed for a narrower set frame. Or it might be that this is an early sign of the frame failing?
It could be vice versa, that the frame failed because of missing spacer or wrongly chosen hub spec.
Despite the crack, the distance between the ends is still that 135, and I can push them abit together, after which they veer back to that 135 mm. The crack is at the outer side of the tube, the rest of the cross section is apparently strong enough to make the dropout veer back (so with no wheel mounted - free) to the 135 mm distance.
That the crack sits on the outer half of the tube is an important detail here, because if a part of the current (=post-fail) measured drop out distance would result from the crack, it would have moved the tube inwards instead of outwards, and the symptom would be that I would need to pull the dropouts away from eachother / more open, to get the wheel in. This is the opposite, and it also has always been that way since acquiring the bike, back in 2017.
In aboves crack explanation scenario, inserting the same wheel in a new same frame, could deliver a repeat story, and in order to avoid that, the hub's 130 mm should be complemented to the frames 135 mm. A spacer, washers (both sides). For that solution I see a problem: the Surly hub has 5 mm - protruding ends (where the mounting bolts with hexagon head get screwed in, and the wheel rests on those ends (= mating surfac, so putting spacers there = taking away wheels supporting surface.
This is a web pic of that Surly hub, taken from:
https://surlybikes.com/parts/ultra_new_hubs
Those flanges on both sides have roughed surfaces, to avoid slipping.
Abit like the more common nuts.
So it doesn't look like a spacers based solution is possible here.
Also, if mounting a wheel moves frame parts (the dropouts), if one gets moved over a different distance than the other, the rear wheel ends up NOT in the middle of the frame. This may explain another problem the bike suffers since acquirement: the rear tyre, a 62 mm Schwalbe "super-moto-x" wears out of center away from the drivetrain side. When the tyres middle profile edge one side becomes 0 mm, the other side is still 2 mm, after a couple years I started to flip the tyre, giving me a season longer life, on a life averaging 1 year.