My darling druggie

[montage]

So lets say somebody very very close to you has begun some hard drugs - and it is most definately effecting them and how they are with you...do you stay or go?

Trying to help just seems pointless and ends up in alot of hurt, but is it fair to just let go of the rope and let them fall?

 

[allen-uk]

Can't give The Answer, but I will say this.

I was an alcoholic, and one thing that applies to all addicts is that (most of the time) we have to find our own 'rock bottom' before we can try and climb out of it.

It might be that your loved one will see sense without this, but it would be unusual, I'm afraid.

Anything a human being wants to do, or wants NOT to do, must be their choice, and not your choice.

I wish you, and your friend, all the luck. But I'm afraid that going might sometimes be the better long-term choice.


A.

 

[Willow]

So lets say somebody very very close to you has begun some hard drugs - and it is most definately effecting them and how they are with you...do you stay or go?

Trying to help just seems pointless and ends up in alot of hurt, but is it fair to just let go of the rope and let them fall?

This strikes me as one of those situations where you can take plenty of advice and then you have to work out what works for you as no situation is the same. This comment is based on my experience of divorce where I have handled things very differently to how I would have imagined or advised myself even. It may not have worked for me but I believe it was the right approach for my children and that for me at the time was the most important thing.

 

[Panter]

So lets say somebody very very close to you has begun some hard drugs - and it is most definately effecting them and how they are with you...do you stay or go?

Trying to help just seems pointless and ends up in alot of hurt, but is it fair to just let go of the rope and let them fall?

At the end of the day, you have to look out for yourself. Keep trying, you may get through but if you have to let go, it's not your fault.
They got themselves into it, you cannot carry any blame for that.

Good luck, people CAN get through this, take it from me....

 

[Panter]

This strikes me as one of those situations where you can take plenty of advice and then you have to work out what works for you as no situation is the same. This comment is based on my experience of divorce where I have handled things very differently to how I would have imagined or advised myself even. It may not have worked for me but I believe it was the right approach for my children and that for me at the time was the most important thing.

Have to second this too, everyone and every situation is different.

 

[Kovu]

Follow what you think Montage, been in that situation myself, it's very difficult to get thorough to the person in my case, but if you help, you might save your friend from a lot of pain in the future.
Drugs = erghh.

 

[montage]

Problem is that I have found out who the dealer is....which has lead to finding myself in some pretty dangerous situations...

More reason to go cycling I guess - clears the head

 

[Kovu]

Problem is that I have found out who the dealer is....which has lead to finding myself in some pretty dangerous situations...

More reason to go cycling I guess - clears the head

Erghhh that's a very bad situation to get in.
Honest you need to be there for your person, but not in the situation if you het me?

And cycling always helps for situations.

 

[Twenty Inch]

Can't give The Answer, but I will say this.

I was an alcoholic, and one thing that applies to all addicts is that (most of the time) we have to find our own 'rock bottom' before we can try and climb out of it.

It might be that your loved one will see sense without this, but it would be unusual, I'm afraid.

Anything a human being wants to do, or wants NOT to do, must be their choice, and not your choice.

I wish you, and your friend, all the luck. But I'm afraid that going might sometimes be the better long-term choice.


A.

+ 1. You going might bring their rock bottom a bit closer and their subsequent recovery a bit faster. The enabler is such a sad role to play - you see it all the time, the boyfriends making excuses, the parents bailing their kids out, the wives lying for their husbands. Get out and stay away, for your own sake.

 

[peanut]

wow thats a tough situation to find yourself in. Its easy to give others advice but few of us ever have to go through this trauma thankfully.
I hope you have someone close that you can confide in that can give you support.

 

[dellzeqq]

Montage - assuming we are talking about something addictive....

1. If you know who the dealer is, call the police
2. You're how old? 18? Give up now. Sorry, but this is beyond you.

 

[montage]

2. You're how old? 18? Give up now. Sorry, but this is beyond you.

revise what you have just said and justify this.

 

[ComedyPilot]

If you have any sense of love towards that person, or other people in your local area, shop the scumbag dealer to the police. They are peddling their filth and poisoning those they sell to - who by the nature of addiction are very vulnerable, and not (in some cases) in a position to make informed decisions about drugs.

Be strong. Let that person know EXACTLY where you stand on drugs, and what your wishes are. If they chose durgs over you, then you are better off (by far) without them.

I really don't give a hoot if I come across as being 'opinionated' on this matter. I worked for a number of years DIRECTLY with people involved with drugs, and can only begin to tell you how much they **** up people's lives.

 

[ACS]

So lets say somebody very very close to you has begun some hard drugs - and it is most definately effecting them and how they are with you...do you stay or go?

Trying to help just seems pointless and ends up in alot of hurt, but is it fair to just let go of the rope and let them fall?

Given our recent PM conversation, I think you already know the answer, you follow your path and if that means walking the walk then do so. Life is about options, he/she has progressed into their predicament no one forced them and they cannot be helped unless they want to be helped. Sometimes, given your prospective career path, you have to leave the baggage at the railway station because the burden of self expectation is so great and intense you may not have the time to make the necessary sacrifice.
<incoming>Now taking cover for lacking compassion</incoming>

 

[ComedyPilot]

Better still, PM me the name of the dealer, a description and I will ring Hampshire Police personally and tell them. 0845 045 45 45.

I have NO qualms whatsoever in doing this.