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[Willow]

I'm a bdy idiot always flexible and wanting to say yes well next time the ex wants a favour remind me to say NO NO NO NO NO you sort it out yourself.

STUPID STUPID STUPID

there feel better now.

 

[BigonaBianchi]

..maybe defer your answer...

"I'll decide when I'm ready"

"I'm not sure, I'll let you know when I am"

 

[rich p]

calm blue ocean, willow. Don't beat yourself up for being nice - it's not a bad virtue

 

[peanut]

I'm a bdy idiot always flexible and wanting to say yes well next time the ex wants a favour remind me to say NO NO NO NO NO you sort it out yourself.

STUPID STUPID STUPID

there feel better now.

My Mum told me to give without ever counting the cost. It was very good advice but I have great difficulty following it sometimes.

 

[Willow]

My Mum told me to give without ever counting the cost. It was very good advice but I have great difficulty following it sometimes.

It's more a case of him taking (the .... )than me giving.

thinking cool calm blue sea as advised - that's good it works/

 

[Speicher]

My Mum told me to give without ever counting the cost. It was very good advice but I have great difficulty following it sometimes.

I agree with your Mum. But did she say you always have to give, or did she mean that when you do give, you do not count the cost. Do you "see" what I am trying to say?

I am often asked to do things, etc, but sometimes it would be unrealistic for me to say yes to those requests.

I would second Bigonabianchi's advice, give yourself time to think about it, when you are asked to do something. Saying "no" takes practice.

 

[peanut]

I agree with your Mum. But did she say you always have to give, or did she mean that when you do give, you do not count the cost. Do you "see" what I am trying to say?

My Mum meant that if you choose to give anything then give without counting the cost. My Mum was a very caring person. She would give her last anything to anybody. She made no distinctions. My Dad caught her taking blankets and food out to a tramp who was sleeping rough under a hedge once
I never ever heard her say 'I gave you this or that and you now owe me ,thanks, gratitude, favour or payment' etc

 

[Aperitif]

She has given you a fine lesson peanut...long may you try to emulate her.
<Willow still in Calmthought-on-Sea>

 

[snorri]

Some snow between the blue sky and the blue sea, a soothing scene from the 'office' window today
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[punkypossum]

My Mum told me to give without ever counting the cost. It was very good advice but I have great difficulty following it sometimes.

Oooh, classic conditions of worth that have been introjected - Carl Rogers would have a field day!!!

 

[Noodley]

Oooh, classic conditions of worth that have been introjected - Carl Rogers would have a field day!!!

I and Thou agree

 

[Dave5N]

Bloody Hell, ten past eleven and we have only just got around to Carl Rogers!

 

[punkypossum]

Lol, sorry, I would have mentioned him earlier, but I only just got in from work!

 

[Dave5N]

No need to apologise...

 

[Dave5N]

Hey punky, are you counselling yet? I started my placement, and now have 6 victims clients on my caseload What a laugh