I have an emotional/physical compulsion...

[yenrod]

That either needs to go' or a bolt from the blue (which isn't likely to happen) to make it work...

Yet I know its going to nearly kill me to do it...yet, if I don't I get the feeling I'm gonna **** the rest of my life up as there aint much being put in from the other side....it just feels I do all the work.

What do I do

Anyone help please...

 

[GentleBenn]

Hi Yenrod,can you explain yourself a bit more,are you talking about your relationship !

 

[Noodley]

What do I do :?:

Anyone help please...

Go for a long ride on your bike, I mean looooonnnggggggg and all will become clear.

 

[snakehips]

I don't really have much to add to this thread but I thought a comparison of signatures might be useful.

 

[Maz]

Go for a long ride on your bike, I mean looooonnnggggggg and all will become clear.

I'll try that as well... I'll be back in 2 days and let you know if the OP makes any sense.

 

[DJ]

I aint sure what you mean by the OP, but from my own experiance, when you have to go you will know and it will feel right, leaving completley ripped me apart, I literally had to start again from scratch, it can be done, but it takes a hard heart and bucket loads of will power.
Good luck.

 

[rich p]

I don't know, Yenners, and nor can any of us, but you might be better off alone than in an unhappy relationship. Try to think rationally about it and not be too emotional. Good luck!

 

[Maz]

I aint sure what you mean by the OP...

Opening Post/er, aka Yenrod.

 

[Noodley]

I'll try that as well... I'll be back in 2 days...

Maybe not quite that long, but after I have done a long ride life seems much more simple. Time to clear the mind and all that...300km seems to do the trick for me. :?: 200km is not quite long enough and 400km is just too much.

 

[buggi]

There is a fundamental flaw in women and men.

Women need love to feel like having sex.
Men need sex to feel loved.

(nature's cruel trick eh?)

once you have this sussed your relationship will work a lot better. my bro and his mrs is going through a rough patch. he wants to fix "it" so shagged her. she doesn't understand why he thinks by having sex "it" is fixed.

he is yet to grasp that "until she snaps out of it he may as well not bother" isn't really going to fix "it" :?:

 

[Noodley]

Women need love to feel like having sex.
Men need sex to feel loved.

That is crap.

 

[buggi]

That is crap.

sorry, i should have said in 99.99 % of relationships. there are of course occasions when a shag for a shag's sake is fine. especially when you are single like me :?:

and if it's "crap" then why do men always think things should be ok after a shag?

 

[yenrod]

>Women need love to feel like having sex. Men need sex to feel loved.

I think that is quite true. Though not fact for ALL situations but a good generality.

Soemthing I often forget.

 

[yenrod]

sorry, i should have said in 99.99 % of relationships. there are of course occasions when a shag for a shag's sake is fine. especially when you are single like me :?:

and if it's "crap" then why do men always think things should be ok after a shag?

I once read about a couple who agreed as a test to have sex everyday for 5or 7 days...and the result was from the woman...

It went like this...

About half-way thru' the woman was tired and started to feel unloved but when they got to the end they both felt closer.

So technically the womans ideaology isn't paramount.

 

[buggi]

ok... scenario....

woman not feeling like sex... man gets pist off and goes to play on his playstation all night... tries it on again later... woman feels pissed off coz he's ignored her all night so refuses sex... vicious circle begins... ends up in divorce.