How to find time for a club run ?

[cyberknight]

Sundays here and i had a club run planned, yet again it has gone out the window as Mrs CK is still asleep and mini CK is already awake , last week it was the same

This is getting a bit annoying as i have feuled up all ready , checked the bike last night etc etc so she knows i want to go ,if i was paranoid i would be thinking she does not want me to have any fun ....
Her idea of fun is watching soaps and i have to wait for them to get up when i am on nights so i can go to bed !

 

[coffeejo]

*passes tea*

Without wishing to wade in, it sounds like you guys need to talk about Stuff. You know, a calm positive atmosphere, when you do x, it makes me feel like y, how can we do this together, etc etc. Not that I've recently done a group session on resolving conflict etc

 

[funnymummy]

I had a similar problem with my other half...Decided raising three kids was hard enough without the 4th making it worse -so I divorced him!
Not that i am sugesting you do the same, Merely pointing out that I am not the person to ask/offer advice on these situations

 

[JonnyBlade]

Sundays here and i had a club run planned, yet again it has gone out the window as Mrs CK is still asleep and mini CK is already awake , last week it was the same

This is getting a bit annoying as i have feuled up all ready , checked the bike last night etc etc so she knows i want to go ,if i was paranoid i would be thinking she does not want me to have any fun ....
Her idea of fun is watching soaps and i have to wait for them to get up when i am on nights so i can go to bed !

I bit the bullet and said 'I'm going out' in the end they either like it or lump it. Either way I'm out on the bike when I need to be.
I don't drink or smoke, do go out partying with the Girls and Boys so this is my outlet

 

[Number14]

Get a trailer and take the kids with you

A bit of extra weight in the back will give you a good Sunday morning workout.

 

[cyberknight]

*passes tea*

Without wishing to wade in, it sounds like you guys need to talk about Stuff. You know, a calm positive atmosphere, when you do x, it makes me feel like y, how can we do this together, etc etc. Not that I've recently done a group session on resolving conflict etc

We had a talk a few months back...this is a lot better than it was , guilt-ed her when she did finally surface.

Least she is not out spending money for the sake of it and telling me off for buying brake pads anymore.

 

[HLaB]

I don't know if all clubs are like this but the two club's I've been in also go out on Saturday rides which are same or similar every week about 40 miles. Folk like these rides, as its easier to find time for them, I must admit I prefer the variation of a Sunday ride though.

 

[Andy500]

My kids grown up but was getting some hassle from the better 1/2 about the time I'm spending on my bike (never mind the £). So persuaded her to join me, we now go out on 40 and 50 mile rides together. In fact we are doing the Great Notts 58 mile ride next Sunday together. I've had to compromise the distance and speed when were together but still manage to go out on my own at least once to twice a week for 70 mile + rides. We also go spinning together where I can really give it some humpty and come out the gym a sweaty mess.

 

[hambones]

Having three young children who like to get up early means the only way I can ride weekends is to get out even earlier!

6am starts on Saturdays with a ride buddy for a 3 hour blast, and then 7am Sunday starts for 2-3 hours. I don't get grief from SWMBO because I'm back indoors by the time breakfast is finished...

 

[PaulSB]

I was similar to hambones. Three boys five years apart and when they were young I wouldn't have considered the club run. Saturday and Sunday I'd be up early and leave at 6.00 to ride for 3-4 hours and back home ready to take part in the whole day by 10.00.

In my view it's what you have to give up when the kids are young and both partners need to support each other. Now they have left I can happily spend a guilt free Sunday with the club but still make sure my full share of chores are completed on Saturday.

Without wishing to sound all holier than thou it's about give and take - a partnership.

 

[monnet]

My club is as HLaB describes. THe Staurday run starts about 0915 and is back by 12ish (not too much ish) and is done on a rota of about 8 routes over 40 miles with a caff stop. A lot of the guys with families prefer this one. The Sunday ride is a much longer affair - 70miles, 0830 start back around 1300. Alot of the guys with families do that one on alternative weeks to keep other halves happy.

How into cycling were you when you met each other? My old man only met my mum because he had a cold and couldn't ride that day. I always think it's a nice example of fate but it did set out my dad's stall pretty early! The 'early years' I'm told (see if you can guess the parent) were spent sharing the bedroom with bikes, wheels and toolboxes. Many a romantic evening was spent at Crystal Palace crits.

Get your Mrs into the Church. My mum is a regular church goer and took me and my sister until we were old enough to decide for ourselves. Merits of religion aside, it will mean she'll have to be up and out with the kids so you'll have a nice free Sunday morning to go ride.

Mind if Derbyshire is anything like it is here, it wasn't a great morning for it anyway. My race was postponed due to road works so I headed out to the club run. There were two of us. We did 40 miles and were completely drowned by the end of it.

 

[cyberknight]

I was similar to hambones. Three boys five years apart and when they were young I wouldn't have considered the club run. Saturday and Sunday I'd be up early and leave at 6.00 to ride for 3-4 hours and back home ready to take part in the whole day by 10.00.

In my view it's what you have to give up when the kids are young and both partners need to support each other. Now they have left I can happily spend a guilt free Sunday with the club but still make sure my full share of chores are completed on Saturday.

Without wishing to sound all holier than thou it's about give and take - a partnership.

Indeed Sunday morning is the only day i get some time , spent Saturday doing the housework + relaying patio slabs + playing with sprog etc etc then played the dutiful hubby keeping mini ck busy while she spent over an hour in 1 shop to buy 1 pair of trousers.( all after only getting 3 hours kip as i finished at work at 3 am sat morning )

Compared to the 15 hours + i used to train when we met i am down to cycle commuting (which means she gets the car all day ) and hopefully 3 hours on a Sunday, working a job a hate because its the best one money wise i can get to support the family .

 

[al78]

Without wishing to sound all holier than thou it's about give and take - a partnership.

But that shouldn't mean that one does the giving and the other does the taking .