Handbuilts are the usual recommendation with more spokes
I am around 15 stone and have Fulcrum 5s on two bikes and no issues but interesting what Fulcrum say
@Spoked Wheels might have some good advice to offer
Like most things in this world, wheels are built with a life expectancy and the same goes for its components. There is no magic only good design, specs and building techniques can make the difference.
In a poorly designed, specified or built wheel, the life of the wheel is shorter. It's all common sense if you think about it. I still remember the Lada cars that used to come from the old Soviet Union I think, they were poorly built and had a very short life, the same happens with wheels. Also, you wouldn't drive a Ferrary to deliver bricks, would you? The Ferrary is a fine car but not for delivering bricks
In a nut shell:
Most people with wheel complains somehow boil down to spokes, either loose spokes or broken spokes and wheel going out of true.
Two things that kill spokes are miles and weight, not potholes like many people believe. A large pothole ridden at speed can certainly damage the rim and that would affect the spokes in some cases, assuming the wheel is a good wheel as in correctly designed, specified and built
Four things that extend the life or delay an early death of a wheel are more spokes, good spoke tension, uniform tension and stress relieving the spoke.
A well built wheel should last many thousands of miles without suffering from going out of true BUT when that wheel is subjected to loads the wheel was not designed for then, the wheel is not going to fall apart or collapse on you ( unless you weigh a tonne
), but the life of that wheel will be shortened. Your Fulcrum 5 is an example, if you were 3 stones lighter I'm sure you would probably double the life of the wheels.