Friends - reunited?

[Speicher]

I tried about three years ago to see if anyone I knew was on Friends Reunited, but it seemed not, so forgot all about it.

Recently I received an e-mail saying that the site had made some major changes, including something about "free to register". So on looking at the site, and noticing a search facility, I entered the name of a person (male) who I knew a very long time ago.

To my surprise, his details are on there, and his most recent "comment" is that he wishes to hear from people he knew.

So, imagine you are a 49 year old man, on your second marriage, and a girlfriend from decades ago contacts you. (He does specifically say he wants to hear from people in the town we both lived in, all that time ago).
We were only together for about a year, but I am very curious to know that he is happy and well. I am sure other people must have wondered how things turned out for people they were close to, but who split up.

He now lives a long way from here, so it would be unlikely that we would meet up. I am trying to decide what, if anything to say, and if it is a good idea to send a e-mail. Has anyone else been in this situation?

 

[4F]

I went to a school, re-union a few years back. Didn't remember many and the few that I did are just as unpleasant now as they were at school.

 

[mr_cellophane]

Been there, done that, wife got somewhat upset . Oh well that's women for you ! She wasn't even a "girlfriend", just a friend who was female. I keep well away from FRu & FaceBook now, except in a very anonymous identity.

 

[LLB]

Went to a school reunion a couple of years back - wow how some had aged

The form bully gave an apology to anyone and everyone for being such a knob in school (which I thought was humbling considering he is now a multi-millionaire)

I'd do another one, and still keep in touch with many I was in school with.

 

[Night Train]

There is probably nothing wrong with getting in touch again but it depends on if you really want to or just feel you should or are just satisfying a curiosity.


I don't do Friends Reunited anymore. I tried it a while back and heard from a few 'friends' but I really have nothing in common with them now. I had very little in common then. The friends I had and wanted to keep in touch with I did do in real life anyway.

I will probably go on and remove my limited details.

 

[Andy in Sig]

You have to be ruthlessly honest with yourself about what you feel for him now. Then act accordingly. The fact that you are asking on here makes me think that it might be an idea to stay away. If you felt he was just a pal I reckon you would have already emailed him.

Your choice and have fun whatever you do!

 

[Fnaar]

I've been to 3 get-togethers with old classmates, and had a great time... few beers, curry etc... seriously, it was really good fun... the ground rules were no talking about your car or your salary, and that seemed to work. Quite a lot were clearly rather wealthy, and I'm not, but that didn't bother me personally.
Also have been in email contact with my "first love" (we nearly got married but thankfully we didn't!)... good email friends now (this is 25yrs later!!!!), and I think we'd get on well if we met up.

 

[Aperitif]

Speicher- 'The medium is the massage'... in other words, if you are happy then fine - but you have many jobs to do here and for the team...

Write him a short note saying what a loss he must have experienced at the time of your parting etc and that you are team Cyclechatta's masseuse...wish him well and wait for a reply...

"Oh yes, hi Speicher, it is good to hear from you and, yes, it was hard at the time but I am a contented man these days - I inherited a 10,000 hectare piece of land in France - complete with vinyard, and bicycle factory managed by my excellent neighbour Eddie and his son Axel... Good to hear that you have an interest in cycling - you might like to organise a little trip to my private museum which has 'one of everything that has ever been made' and meet with Alex Singer, my museum manager...I'll have one of the staff bring up a couple of bottles of Talbot for lunch when you come, it'll go well with the estate venison.
Would you like my pilot to whizz over and fly you here sometime next week?"

 

[Speicher]

Speicher- 'The medium is the massage'... in other words, if you are happy then fine - but you have many jobs to do here and for the team...

Write him a short note saying what a loss he must have experienced at the time of your parting etc and that you are team Cyclechatta's masseuse...wish him well and wait for a reply...

Yes, I am very busy at the moment thankyou.

I will think about it for a few days. The opportunity to contact him again after all this time, is, I think, not to be missed.

 

[Perry]

I was contacted by an ex from F R.

It sturred up a lot of feelings and nearly cost me my current relationship.

It may open a can of worms.

Would you contact him if you were in a serious relationship?

 

[Aperitif]

Tell us more Perry - you don't seem to get many problems...

 

[abchandler]

The key is to take the technology out of the question. Would you write to him if you knew his address? Go over and talk if you happened to spot him while out at a bar?

The fact that it's FR should be irrelevant. Know whether you want to re-establish contact at all, and think through how you'd feel if he then wanted no further contact before you approach him by any method

Good luck with whatever you do!!

 

[Perry]

Ahh Bugger, what the heck...

This girl contacted me and wanted to do loads of "Stuff" - need I say more?

 

[Perry]

Tell us more Perry - you don't seem to get many problems...

Let's just she was very "Willing"

 

[rich p]

Let's just she was very "Willing"

Did you have to take her back to be retuned?

Was she bent in any way?