Find lost friends !

[GentleBenn]

Hi Everyone,

I was talking to a very old friend the other day ,about old girlfriends and that, and my mate mention one girl he used to go out with ( she was a great girl) that he finished with to go out with his future wife (now divorced ) and he said he'd really like to look her up ,but she's moved to England somewhere !

He does'nt know but i've been looking online ,facebook,myspace, friends reunited etc , and cant find trace of her anywhere !

Do any of you know where else i could look !
I did'nt mention it to my mate incase she's married/engaged and i dont want to cause any trouble for her!
Any ideas would be great, thanks !

 

[Fnaar]

google the name?

 

[Mr Pig]

After my dad died my mother married a guy she'd known at primary school! Ok, he died of cancer six months later but it just goes to show how these things can work out. Or maybe not.

 

[BigonaBianchi]

I have been traced by three long lost bandmates recently...these are peeps I 'rocked out' with over 20 years ago, and in one case when I was 15. It's a weird experience hooking up again. It's almost as if time had stood still and that the missing years never happened. They are still the same people, same charachters, same situations etc mostly....it's cool for a few days...then..well to be honest you just drift away again and why not, after all if the friendship wasnt strong enough to last in the first place why would it be now?

 

[TVC]

Sounds like your 'mate' is looking back when he should be looking forward.

If you really do want to continue looking for her then try finding one of her good friends that still lives locally and you can find - women tend to be better at keeping in touch than blokes so she may be able to help make a connection.

 

[alecstilleyedye]

…if the friendship wasnt strong enough to last in the first place why would it be now?

wise words

 

[GentleBenn]

Stop looking then. What are you going to do if you do find her?

She has made no effort to find him, leave her alone and let him get on with his life without her.

Hang on a minute, you sound a tad aggressive,i was friendly with her too we used to go out as a foursome,if i found her i was just going to say hi what you up to ,you married yet ,just catch up,that sort of thing.

When he was round mine we did search for her on facebook, no luck,thought i'd ask if there were any other sites people use!

thanks Fnarr,boab and tvc will look into it !

 

[Night Train]

I hate being found by 'old friends'. There is usually a reason why I, or they, didn't bother keeping in touch.

I go out of my way to reduce the occurances of my name on line except in connection with my work so no facebook, myspace, bebo, friends reunited, etc.

 

[Mr Pig]

I hate being found by 'old friends'. There is usually a reason why I, or they, didn't bother keeping in touch.

Seconded.

 

[Brains]

linkedin can be pretty good if her industry is one of those where 'everyone' signs up to

 

[GentleBenn]

I agree with the old friends not keeping in touch but not everyone keeps in contact with old girlfriends,the new one usually dont like it !

 

[Stig-OT-Dump]

You could always try 192.com, or other phone directories. Some include voting lists etc. There is an american site that has access to all of the british sites that have electoral roles and phone numbers but doesn't charge for the information - it has helped me find people that are ex-directory. Of course, she may have married. If you are a serious stalker you could try genealogy websites (I now feel ashamed at just how bad that makes me sound. I have only searched for people's whereabouts for purely altruistic and wholesomely good reasons).

A lot of the old friends I've fallen out of touch with lost contact because we were just SO dynamic in our youth. We worked our way across continents, forging new friendships and experiencing life to such an extent that it wasn't possible to always phone each other on a sunday night. We couldn't set our watches by the time each person walked into the pub on Friday. We weren't always just round the corner and able to pop in for a cup of tea. We didn't work at the same job for years on end. Over a 3 year period I once had 26 addresses. That's another 26 sets of pals.

In this year of homecoming, after 250 years of the great bard, what's so wrong with trying to remember old acquaintance from auld lang syne? There are lots of folk from my past whom I'd love to call me out of the blue (and only a few that I wouldn't)

 

[GentleBenn]

Thankyou stig !

I was beginning to think i had broken some unspoken rule!

Thou shalt not look up old friends B)

So what if my mate has had 3 restraining orders taken out on him by ex-girlfriends,does that make him a stalker?

 

[GentleBenn]

My God ! You really are scenario man are'nt you ?
Do you always look on the dark side?
Your making an awful lot of assumptions about people you dont know and their circumstances, he's been divorced now for 8 years , and like i said ,if i find out she's married ,or not single in anyway ,he'll never know about it, and nor will she !

 

[GentleBenn]

I take on board your concerns,really ,im not going to even mention my mates name .I'm not a person who takes other peoples feelings lightly either.
I did'nt ask for opinions, i asked did anyone know of anywhere else to look apart from facebook etc!
I'm not assuming anything ,just wanted to drop her a line,like i said in my last post if she's attatched in anyway ,his name will never be mentioned,and he will never find out from me. So the worst scenario i can think of is , she sees my name and gets in touch or decides not to ! Simples !

Im sorry your experience with old friends was so bad ,but not everyone is the same !

Take it easy!