best mates death

[albal]

15 Feb 2004 my old mate Alan Evans died of septasemia, a musician who played guitar for 'The brotherhood of man'.
It dont get easier, anyone else lost a good friend suddenly?

 

[Crackle]

Sorry to hear that albal. Yes I have and there is still a deep feeling of poignant regret and sadness at his passing.

 

[Noodley]

I have lost a few friends, it's always tough.

The first one was my best mate at primary school who was killed when we were in primary 3. I turned up to school on Monday and he was not sitting next to me anymore. I was very angry for a while about his death.

He had a twin brother who I still see now and again, and I always wonder what would have happened had he lived, would we have stayed friends, etc.

 

[Dave5N]

Yeah. It's very hard. and it always hurts - it just gets more distant but when it's anniversaries like today is for you it comes back.

Sincere condolences.

I walk. hard. sitting still is awful when I am affected by it.

 

[colly]

Yep. I lost a very good friend a few years ago. Mid 40's and years of drinking finally caught up with him. Still far to young to go though.
It's not until they are no longer around you realise how big a part in your life friends are.

 

[cadseen]

Yes i have lost a good racing friend last year, trouble is as I am getting on this is only going to happen more regular.

 

[graham56]

Yes,an oppo of mine died Nov 2005 and i really miss him. He was more like the brother i never had. Cancer took him and it tore me apart to see him go the way he did.If it was legal i reckon i could of finished it for him rather than him suffering the way he did.

 

[HLaB]

I don't know what to say really but commiserations to everybody.

 

[Milo]

MY granddad just before christmas. Best friend I ever had, stings like hell.

 

[barq]

A friend committed suicide last summer. So, yes, it is difficult and I keep being surprised by the way sadness keeps coming back and getting me. Quite unexpected things can set me off. I guess it does get easier, and perhaps one manages it better, but I'm not sure if you ever really get over these things.

Best wishes albal, and everyone else.

 

[gbb]

Lost my brother suddenly almost a year ago, and funnily enough, just come back from my SIL's (his widow)
Everyones different, and we've been through the anger and sadness (yes, of course there's still sadness), but his wife expressed quite early on that we must'nt stop talking about him, keeping his memory alive if you like, even though it was wrenchingy hard at first.
The four of us have just had a couple of hours on the Wii together...they have a character on there that they've made to resemble him, named him 'pool king' (he was a fair pool player...he liked to think )...and when our SIL was struggling with a game ( using his character) , we'd say 'c'mon Kev..stop zarking about'...and whaddayaknow....she'd start winning

Fond memories are the best. We've just had a fun evening, good memories, imitating his little sayings and traits...but as i'm writing this, i feel it welling up inside me. So no, it doesnt get easier, even when you have memories you can laugh at.

 

[Noodley]

..but as i'm writing this, i feel it welling up inside me.

I was welling up when I was writing about my best mate from primary 3, which was over 30 years ago. Strange thing emotion, eh?

 

[Globalti]

Yep. I lost a very good friend a few years ago. Mid 40's and years of drinking finally caught up with him. Still far to young to go though.
It's not until they are no longer around you realise how big a part in your life friends are.

Colly, I see you're in Leeds. Was your pal Liam C, by any chance? He was a college pal of mine who died in a similar way; his departure has left a huge hole in my and many other people's lives, not to mention his widow and young son. He always said there were only a million people in the world who really mattered and I don't think he realised he was actually one of those; he was loved by very many people. His funeral stopped the traffic in Ripon.

Also lost an old school pal a few months ago to a sudden brain haemhorrage. I miss him too.

 

[colly]

Colly, I see you're in Leeds. Was your pal Liam C, by any chance? He was a college pal of mine who died in a similar way; his departure has left a huge hole in my and many other people's lives, not to mention his widow and young son. He always said there were only a million people in the world who really mattered and I don't think he realised he was actually one of those; he was loved by very many people. His funeral stopped the traffic in Ripon.

Also lost an old school pal a few months ago to a sudden brain haemhorrage. I miss him too.

No that wasn't my mate RR but it seems a very similar tale.
Sadly my pal had some demons that just would not leave him alone. I never did get to the bottom of what it was that would send him off on days long benders. He was the most generous bloke I have ever met in all senses of the word and simply could not pass by on the other side of the road if he saw someone in trouble. Somehow though he could not accept help himself.
Oddly I knew him for years before I realised he had a problem with drink. He didn't hide it as such but somehow he managed it until eventually it began to manage him as it were. Very, very sad.

Best mate I ever had or will ever have.

 

[Arch]

Yes, I lost my boyfriend just under two years ago, and I still miss him, although since he features in so many of my anecdotes, he's almost still here. I don't go a day without either starting a sentence "Tom and I...." or at least thinking about something we did.

Would have been his birthday on Friday, and yesterday I was down at the bike recycling project and there was the bedstead tall bike he built, hanging on the wall, and I was discussing options for the Dawes Galaxy frame they just had powdercoated for me, which he pursuaded me to buy at a Uni bike auction all those years ago and which we rebuilt together. He'll never quite go away.